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Ladies this question is for you. When you are first dating someone ... let's say the first four or five dates ... what are some of the biggest turnoffs men can do? Anything you have seen which just "creeps" you out?

bluewolf17 Established Member

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There is a lot a guy can do to turn a girl off.

One thing that is big with me is anger.

If a guy talks about how he hates his ex, how is life sucks, how the world is against him..etc. Basically if he is a negative person I run the other way.

 

Also someone that want's things too soon. Like if I mention..oh, the San Juan Islands. And he says "oh, I have always wanted to go, we should go next weekend!"..Uh, no, I don't think so. Waay to soon.

Trialbyfire Established Member

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Cheating creeps me out. Beyond that, I don't recall a guy who I've gotten involved with, that's creeped me out in any other way.

 

Now turn-offs is a different story. Too much superficiality turns me off but that's a negative trigger in me.

ecm Established Member

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oooh, this is fun.

 

In no particular order after #1

1) Talk/ brag about money

2) brag about anything...I don't really care if you're a "superstar" if we

like you

3) lie/ exxagerate

4) take texts/ calls (unless it's an emergency or something)

5) be rude to the waitress/ or any service person

6) HIT on the waitress/ or any service person

7) go in for a kiss after I wouldn't kiss on the first date

8) cry. Sorry (lol) but really. I mean unless you go to a really sad movie.

9) burp/ poot, etc.

SilverChrome Established Member

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  • Talks way too much
  • Talks about what he has - money, cars but I see nada
  • Burps
  • Sloppy dresser
  • Talks with his mouth full
  • Chews with his mouth open
  • Tries to hard to impress me

Lizzie60 Established Member

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I don't even think I would see him after the very first date if he was a turn-off..

 

- bad breath

- arrogant

- smart azz and loud

- sloppy

- no manners

- bad hygiene

- broke (financially)

- driving an old rusty car

- lives with a roomate (over 40)

SilverChrome Established Member

SilverChrome

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Ladies this question is for you. When you are first dating someone ... let's say the first four or five dates ... what are some of the biggest turnoffs men can do? Anything you have seen which just "creeps" you out?

 

My bad! I read your post wrong. I thought it meant biggest turn-offs a man can do on a first date!

Lauriebell82 Established Member

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Off the top of my head:

 

-bad breath (that's #1!!!!)

-too sarcastic

-makes disgusting jokes

-burps/farts

-bad table manners

-snores

-texts like crazy on dates

-brags about himself too much

-complains about everything

-hits on other girls in front of me

 

I think my biggest turn off is guys who are constantly joking around and are never serious. Or make some stupid obnoxious joke then follow it up with "oh i'm just playin." That pisses me off!

LDR Established Member

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Agreed with all of the above!

 

Plus:

-Doesn't call when he says

-Disappears and then reappears

-Doesn't answer texts/calls/emails in a timely manner

-Unhealthy eating habits

-Not interested in any kind of exercise nor physical activity (other than sex)

GrayClouds Established Member

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I think this is the same list from the thread why do "bad boys" turn you on:

 

- arrogant

- smart azz and loud

- sloppy

- no manners

- bad hygiene

- broke (financially)

- driving an old rusty car

- lives with a roomate (over 40)

-Doesn't call when he says

-Disappears and then reappears

-Doesn't answer texts/calls/emails in a timely manner

-Unhealthy eating habits

-Not interested in any kind of exercise nor physical activity (other than sex)

 

  • Talks way too much
  • Talks about what he has - money, cars but I see nada
  • Burps
  • Sloppy dresser
  • Talks with his mouth full
  • Chews with his mouth open
  • Tries to hard to impress me

1) Talk/ brag about money

2) brag about anything...I don't really care if you're a "superstar" if we

like you

3) lie/ exxagerate

4) take texts/ calls (unless it's an emergency or something)

5) be rude to the waitress/ or any service person

6) HIT on the waitress/ or any service person

7) go in for a kiss after I wouldn't kiss on the first date

8) cry. Sorry (lol) but really. I mean unless you go to a really sad movie.

9) burp/ poot, etc.

Cheating

Too much superficiality

:)

hopesndreams Established Member

hopesndreams

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Asks too many personal questions and tells me his life story. The first few dates should just be about fun, IMO.

aerogurl87 Established Member

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Ladies this question is for you. When you are first dating someone ... let's say the first four or five dates ... what are some of the biggest turnoffs men can do? Anything you have seen which just "creeps" you out?

 

Let's see, when a man talks about his ex constantly that turns me off. When he treats the staff at the venue he takes me out too, badly that's a turnoff. Then when he nitpicks everything I do or is way too hypocritical of what I do (ex. mannerisms, the way I talk, etc) even if it's done in a joking manner, that's a turn off.

alphamale Established Member

alphamale

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i would think having no money would be #1 on the list

aerogurl87 Established Member

aerogurl87

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I remember when I was dating this guy who would've been awesome. He did all the gentleman like things like open doors for me, paid for everything, and was always nice to the staff when we went out (tipped well too). He was also wealthy but didn't brag about his money or try to flaunt it unnecessarily, which was nice. But he was constantly on his blackberry! I swear he never put it down and to me that was a HUGE turnoff.

eiithan Established Member

eiithan

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Besides what have been listed:

 

- Bad table manners. It just gets on my nerves.

- Laughing at everything/at his own jokes. It also gets on my nerves.

- Ignorant/discriminating/insensitive comments. Had this stunning looking guy sat next to my table, we somehow ended up having a conversation. I mentally covered my ears when he started talking about how stupid Philip K. Dick novels are. PKD may not be a Nobel/Booker/Pulitzer winner but still is so much smarter than you, idiot.

Citizen Erased Established Member

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- Cheaters

- Racists

- Bums

- Having no concept of personal space

- Cries (sorry, I don't even do that and I actually have a vagina, mate).

- Makes me watch cricket

- Listens to rap or house music. I could tolerate anything else but those two.

- New Again made me think of something, talks ghetto. I think it's best someone like not be be around me as I may smother them with a pillow.

 

I have a lot of turn offs but the others I can handle.

Island Girl Established Member

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Guys that are insecure and preoccupied with the size of their hands.

 

Negative guys who claim they would would kill themselves over superficial meaningless things.

 

Drama Kings.

 

Also guys who worry about what everyone else thinks.

 

Oh and everything everyone else already posted.

Citizen Erased Established Member

Citizen Erased

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Guys that are insecure and preoccupied with the size of their hands.

Negative guys who claim they would would kill themselves over superficial meaningless things.

 

Drama Kings.

 

Also guys who worry about what everyone else thinks.

 

Oh and everything everyone else already posted.

 

:lmao: Whatever could you mean? :confused:

Island Girl Established Member

Island Girl

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:lmao: Whatever could you mean? :confused:

 

OH! Did I omit that it is a man that is obsessive about any part of their body...? Because that is a turn off too.

 

But I mentioned HANDS specifically. Ummmmmmmmm. Wonder why that is?? *thinking* :p

laRubiaBonita Established Member

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if a guy.........

 

* loves his car

* talks bad about people in a stereotypical sort of way

* treats his mother, sisters, family bad

* has gross teeth

* has a totally nasty, disgusting, biohazard-esq home

* if he is mean to animals

* if he speeds for no reason AND if he has abnormal road rage

* if he lives with his parents- UNLESS he is: in college; 27 and witha great excuse; or is taking care of his old feeble parent(s)

* yells, gives me the silent treatment; or criticizes me

 

 

i am sure there are more.....

hopesndreams Established Member

hopesndreams

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Bad grooming, moustaches and dirty baseball caps.

caramel c Established Member

caramel c

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Guys who:

 

have messy hair or clothes

smell bad

say they don't believe in God

have dirt under their nails

smoke

talk too much about how much money they make

talk too much about exes

talk about how much the bill was

ask too many questions about your past relationships

 

I really could go on...maybe I will later

SilverChrome Established Member

SilverChrome

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It's a huge f***ing turn off if I find out that the guy showers only once a day!

caramel c Established Member

caramel c

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eye boogers

crusty lips

gives one word answers

complains too much

talks about fights/fighting as if its cool

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