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When a Stranger Smile at You…. Are You Flattered or Suspicious?

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When a Stranger Smile at You…. Are You Flattered or Suspicious?

 

I was on my way home when I saw this guy. He got my attention because he was staring at me and smiling too. Since I found him cute and attractive, I smiled back to him. He walked toward me and asked…. How much is one night?

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When a Stranger Smile at You…. Are You Flattered or Suspicious?

 

I was on my way home when I saw this guy. He got my attention because he was staring at me and smiling too. Since I found him cute and attractive, I smiled back to him. He walked toward me and asked…. How much is one night?

 

Depends where I am.

 

In a small town or friendly southern US city, or even in Europe, I'm flattered, and not alarmed.

 

In a big US city, I'm suspicious that they are insane.

UrKillinMeSmalls Established Member

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This has everything to do with your own self concept. Unless you have had a bad experience in the past, a normal person with a healthy self concept would probably be flattered. Someone with a low self esteem would probably assume it's a joke or there was something beneath the surface.

 

It's all about how you view yourself.

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This has everything to do with your own self concept. Unless you have had a bad experience in the past, a normal person with a healthy self concept would probably be flattered. Someone with a low self esteem would probably assume it's a joke or there was something beneath the surface.

 

It's all about how you view yourself.

 

If someone smiles at me on the subway they are usually touched in the head. That's how it goes in a big city.

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If someone smiles at me on the subway they are usually touched in the head. That's how it goes in a big city.

 

Can't say I agree. I live in a large metropolitan area too, in my opinion people aren't friendly enough. So I take a smile as genuine. Then again I'm a guy, I can see how something like that might make a girl feel irked, for protection issues. But still, I think it's about self concept.

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i like it when girls smile at me

carhill Established Member

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I like to think they're having a good day and it's not directed at me personally.

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I smile back. If the stranger is a cute guy, I'd grin and wink .... :lmao:

2sure Established Member

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Sometimes people , all kinds of people smile at me and I realize its because I'm walking around smiling. I like it.

 

But honestly, its really really easy to tell a street walking hooker from anyone else, except maybe in LV. You've got a wardrobe issue.

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When a Stranger Smile at You…. Are You Flattered or Suspicious?

 

I was on my way home when I saw this guy. He got my attention because he was staring at me and smiling too. Since I found him cute and attractive, I smiled back to him. He walked toward me and asked…. How much is one night?

This brings to mind the old comedic drum roll for the money line! Bada...boom. :laugh:

 

It depends on the stranger and how they're smiling. Friendly, non-creepy individuals smiling at me, I smile back.

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Well, flattered until this:

 

He walked toward me and asked…. How much is one night?

 

It feels good to know you can turn someone's head, share a smile..

 

Though this guy's comment to you was rude and uncalled for.

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Depends who is smiling at me.

 

An attractive woman...flattered.

 

IRS agent...not so much.

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It highly depends on the context. If I'm in Russia, I'm highly suspicious - people don't smile at strangers, and if you smile at someone, they think you're either insane, up to no good, or mentally retarded. If I'm in NYC, I'm suspicious, unless I'm in a bookstore or something like that. In other places, I'm neither suspicious nor flattered. In my current city when strangers yell out stuff like "I like your hat!" or "That's a beautiful dress" it's either creepy or flattering, depending on the delivery and circumstance.

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I'm with carhill, i think they're just having a good day... because i tend to do this if i'm in a happy mood. It doesn't automatically mean they like you and so you should be flattered.:)

 

He walked toward me and asked…. How much is one night?
What the hell?! Did he mistaken you for a prostitute/escort?!?:eek:
Arabella Established Member

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I smile at people all the time. I'm not insane, retarded, nor have bad intentions. It's just my disposition, I'm a very happy person and I have a great smile :p

 

But I'm also European, from a Mediterranean region... and that's common back home. In the US, people really don't seem to smile much at all and I guess it may seem strange to some.

 

Now I live in a relatively small city in Upstate NY. Generally speaking, men take it as an invitation to approach, especially in places like bookstores, or other social settings. Women generally smile back politely but remain somewhat distant.

 

It's a cultural thing I suppose :)

 

Arabella

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The only thing that would make me suspicious is 1) if the stranger smiled in a creepy way or 2) it's dark, late, and I'm alone.

 

I like being smiled at, whether it's a woman or man, child or 90 year old. I smile back usually.

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I smile at people all the time. I'm not insane, retarded, nor have bad intentions. It's just my disposition, I'm a very happy person and I have a great smile :p

 

But I'm also European, from a Mediterranean region... and that's common back home. In the US, people really don't seem to smile much at all and I guess it may seem strange to some.

 

Now I live in a relatively small city in Upstate NY. Generally speaking, men take it as an invitation to approach, especially in places like bookstores, or other social settings. Women generally smile back politely but remain somewhat distant.

 

It's a cultural thing I suppose :)

 

Arabella

 

It's definitely a cultural thing. In some contexts, I just smile back. :)

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I guess it is different where you go.

 

In the South most (not all) people will greet you and smile. Some will even start a conversation. I'm used to it.

 

What is funny is that I was stopped in the Chicago airport once and decided to take a stroll outside so I could see a teeny tiny bit of Chicago. I said hello to someone who immediately turned head first into a corner to avoid me. It was probably weird for both of us.

 

A girl I met in collage, a transfer student from up North someplace came back to her dorm room infruiated at all of the Southern people across campus looking at her in the eye and smiling. Her interpertation was hilarious.

 

The how much for an hour thing, well, that is just not right. I guess I should never greet anyone in Nevada.

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I smile at everyone, people probably think I'm insane. People in Sydney, mainly during the work week, are pretty unfriendly. I like to balance that out with some friendliness. :)

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