FeelingLonely98 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 So what do I do? I would still like to save my marriage - but only if he really wants to. Do I talk to him and offer to work our way through the problems together, or do I accept the situation for what it is? Right now he wants out and has virtually shut down on me. Beebie - Maybe not what you want to hear, but about 30 days ago I decided to 180 and it has helped me more than I ever thought. I was pathetic back then. Little by little I have crawled back up. I'm getting out, working out, focusing on work again, enjoying Father-Sons time, back to watching some football (I missed it for about 6 weeks!), redecorating the house, ETC. I am preparing for life without her. If a miracle brings her and I together then at least I made myself better between 30 days ago and whenever that happens. FURTHER, if the cheater / leaver ever wants to come back they will not while the BS is the same distraught, terrifed, and sad person. BUT, the biggest reaso to do the 180 is for you BEE. You are a great woman, you deserve to feel good. Like I said to you in one of my 1st posts to you, you need to take care of you. Will make you a better Mom too. GOOD LUCK... PEACE!
Author Beebie Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Thanks so much FL98. I just desperately wish I knew the truth about why he wants a divorce. Is it because he really does no longer love me or is he running away from me because of his business/financial situation? Is he treating me like he hates me because he wants ME to hate him? I just don't know. I'm trying hard to work on myself. I'm going to the gym/swimming and I've changed my hairstyle and got a new image. We're still living in the same house so he can see what I'm up to and I'm giving him the impression I'm moving forward. But then, when he's gone to work, I sit and cry and wonder what the hell I'm doing it all for. Why can't I get it into my head and accept it's over?
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