redfathom Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 And the lady who is supposed to train me has postponed every meeting we were suppose to have since then. We were suppose to meet to go over the department itself, never happened. She rescheduled and rescheduled, until finally we never met. When I needed her for something almost the same week she said she was too buys and wouldn't give me any direction on the project she gave me. Then later that day I saw her outside taking a smoke break. The 10-15 minutes she spent outside would have been more then enough time for what I needed. A month ago my boss asked her to train me on something else, meeting was postponed, again and again. This is for me to take some extra things off her plate, I would think she would be excited to hand them over to me. We still haven't met to go over those things... Now again, she scheduled a meeting with me for something else and keeps moving it...even though I can see her calendar and she has sometime tomorrow that we could meet. I want to say something, but don't want to call out the person that has to train me. I haven't said anything to my boss, but I don't want to come across as a slacker. Any suggestions?
Lucky_One Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 Seriously, the first thing that pops into my head after reading all of your work threads for the past year is that you are just not liked and have the rep of being "whatever" at work. Do you have friends of any sort at work? Have you asked them about your work persona or demeanor, and whether you are seen as a likable person or not? I'd discuss this with your boss yesterday. This was over 4 months ago, and it appears that you must not be doing anything as you have never been trained on any of your duties/tasks. Not only are they going to add this to your personnel file as being a slacker, but you are going to be seen as an apathetic slacker.
Trialbyfire Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 I don't think you can use the smoke break as an example of her dislike. It's like using a lunch break to say that someone doesn't want to train you. Time to step away from the personal and social aspects of this. She might just hate training people in general or possibly is making a statement to management that she's just way too busy to do anything, where you're the person caught in the crossfire. Forget email for a second. Approach her one-on-one and see if you can't get the logistics of timing, set for the training. She was given the task of training you and needs to uphold what she agreed to, with your boss. Don't try to force her hand or dominate her, unless you're her senior. Play nice but assertive.
tanbark813 Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 CC your boss on emails about the meetings and delays.
Author redfathom Posted October 7, 2009 Author Posted October 7, 2009 Seriously, the first thing that pops into my head after reading all of your work threads for the past year is that you are just not liked and have the rep of being "whatever" at work. Do you have friends of any sort at work? Have you asked them about your work persona or demeanor, and whether you are seen as a likable person or not? I'd discuss this with your boss yesterday. This was over 4 months ago, and it appears that you must not be doing anything as you have never been trained on any of your duties/tasks. Not only are they going to add this to your personnel file as being a slacker, but you are going to be seen as an apathetic slacker.I don't have "friends" at work, I have aquantances (sp) who I chit chat with and some I go to lunch with. People do like me at work, I am a nice person, and help out. A guy told me two weeks ago that he thinks I am one of the hardest working and underappreciated people at the company. Personally I wouldn't care if I liked the person or not, if I was swampped and someone was "hired" to help me out, so I could transition some tasks, I would jump at the opprotunity.
Author redfathom Posted October 7, 2009 Author Posted October 7, 2009 I don't think you can use the smoke break as an example of her dislike. It's like using a lunch break to say that someone doesn't want to train you. Time to step away from the personal and social aspects of this. She might just hate training people in general or possibly is making a statement to management that she's just way too busy to do anything, where you're the person caught in the crossfire. Forget email for a second. Approach her one-on-one and see if you can't get the logistics of timing, set for the training. She was given the task of training you and needs to uphold what she agreed to, with your boss. Don't try to force her hand or dominate her, unless you're her senior. Play nice but assertive.During the project where I couldn't get any feedback, she actually yelled at me for asking a question. She then five minutes later apologized and I told her, that while it's nice that she apologized. I would rather spend the time talking about the project and not feelings. I was very nice about it... I honestly am wondering if she is being territorial. It seems that way to me. She might have an issue with me, personally. As often females are competative, I think this could be one issue.
Author redfathom Posted October 7, 2009 Author Posted October 7, 2009 CC your boss on emails about the meetings and delays.The thought corssed my mind
Trialbyfire Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 During the project where I couldn't get any feedback, she actually yelled at me for asking a question. She then five minutes later apologized and I told her, that while it's nice that she apologized. I would rather spend the time talking about the project and not feelings. I was very nice about it... I honestly am wondering if she is being territorial. It seems that way to me. She might have an issue with me, personally. As often females are competative, I think this could be one issue.Who knows what her problems are. Try not to focus on personal interaction or grievances. Focus on the task on hand. Keep it impersonal or it just confuses the real issue of getting the job done, in as efficient manner as possible. Once she's trained you, you no longer have to have as much direct contact with her, so you can keep a personal distance to her, while maintaining a professional demeanor.
Star Gazer Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 CC your boss on emails about the meetings and delays. IME, that's all it takes.
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