brock9911 Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 well anyone who knows my posts knows i had contacted my ex to retrieve my belongings that were left up in her attic. i did this via email. i didnt get a response for a few days, so when i had a few drinks i sent her another email. it was basically a sarcastic rude email thanking her for not returning my email low and behold i got a text message saying theres no need to be rude yada yada. but the time i recieved the text i happened to blow her of cuz i was with another girl. the next day is when we finally spoke. i apologized for being rude and said i thought she was ducking me and not returning my email on purpose. she said no she just doesnt check that email much anymore. either way asking for my clothes turned into 100 texts back n forth. basically seeing how life is going. how work is going. shes of medication, and shes been sober for 3 months. we both discussed how we're both righting our wrongs and better our lives. also how shes going back to school and we said how we're glad and proud of each other in trying to get a grasp on life. whats weird is i didnt feel any feelings of hatred or anger or bitterness. it was actually pleasant talking to her and hearing how her and her family are doing...i know for a fact that im not over her. i also know shes got feelings for me even after all shes put me through. but i expected to be upset, expecting her to try to get back with me. her try to lure me back ect. but that didnt happen. we genuinely just talked like normal human beings...it seems really weird
DustySaltus Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 well anyone who knows my posts knows i had contacted my ex to retrieve my belongings that were left up in her attic. i did this via email. i didnt get a response for a few days, so when i had a few drinks i sent her another email. it was basically a sarcastic rude email thanking her for not returning my email low and behold i got a text message saying theres no need to be rude yada yada. but the time i recieved the text i happened to blow her of cuz i was with another girl. the next day is when we finally spoke. i apologized for being rude and said i thought she was ducking me and not returning my email on purpose. she said no she just doesnt check that email much anymore. either way asking for my clothes turned into 100 texts back n forth. basically seeing how life is going. how work is going. shes of medication, and shes been sober for 3 months. we both discussed how we're both righting our wrongs and better our lives. also how shes going back to school and we said how we're glad and proud of each other in trying to get a grasp on life. whats weird is i didnt feel any feelings of hatred or anger or bitterness. it was actually pleasant talking to her and hearing how her and her family are doing...i know for a fact that im not over her. i also know shes got feelings for me even after all shes put me through. but i expected to be upset, expecting her to try to get back with me. her try to lure me back ect. but that didnt happen. we genuinely just talked like normal human beings...it seems really weird Well, first things first I would get your stuff back as soon as possible. I had conversations with my ex-fiance similar to yours and they would range from nasty to just like old times. I still haven't gotten any of my stuff back including the $5000 engagement ring. I don't know if it's just out of spite or because she just wants something to hold on to keep the connection alive. What do you want though? Do you want to try and reconcile with her at this point? Is she still dealing with your friend at all? Are you still dealing with the girl that your friend likes? Either you pursue this at lay everything out there to her or you grab your things and go NC. I don't see what other options you have.
Author brock9911 Posted October 7, 2009 Author Posted October 7, 2009 yeah its deffinitely a weird situation to me. in my mind, i would love for things to be back to normal...but at this point what the f*ck is normal. from what i know my friend deleted his myspace and hasnt contacted her. and as for the other girl, im still talking to her and we hung out last night, but im getting a bad feeling about chilling with her. and as for getting back with her....i dont know if i could ever trust her, i mean she cheated. so regardless of how much she changes or becomes a better person, how will that ever take away from what she did. and i have a feeling this other girl actually likes me, not just a fling thing. so im not ready for that.
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