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Cant believe i am doing this but i am lost...Im 38 met a girl around 2 years ago. Started out as friends at lucnh time and she was in the process of "trying" to work out her relationship with her fella of 25 years whom i met at pub. He had someone else and quite often told me that he wasn't putting his eggs in 1 basket as she had hurt him etc..Anyway because of this we got close and yeh we had a thing going. Mind you they weren't living together either.

 

We were a secret for a while and she was so into me i just couldn't grasp it. She even said she was falling for me.

 

I let my guard down and trusted her words that she was going to move on but after a few months it was apparent that everytime he went to move on she couldn't handle it and pushed me away a little, then we would get close and the circle continued based on his moods and movements with life. I accepted that she had to go through all this and i have spent the better part of 16 months sitting back and waiting, while i catch up with her very randomly we talk everyday, she tells me im the only one and she is struggling to know where her heart is.

 

But in past few months it was always she was torn between her ex and me but now its more about she is doing it all for herself. I have been her rock and stood by her for everything. I am the one that makes the effort of trying to keep this going, i hardly hear from her unless she thinks i am up to something which is driving me crazy. She doesnt want to do anything with me because it is too much like a "couple thing" so i do my own thing and if i don't reply she goes of her head thinking i am screwing around.

 

But then she will always say to me you are free to do what you want and when her head is sorted if i have moved on then so be it... But if i was to tell her i was, then it becomes like im playing around. I don't get it hey!!

 

We argue a bit because i want to see her, we question each other about who we are chatting to on facebook or people who are added as friends.. I hate to think of myself as not trusting her but she puts doubt in my head.

 

I tell her i love her, will do the time and wait for her to sort out divorce, but then i get crappy with it and the same thing happens.

I think she loves me, i hate that i have sat back and spent so much time alone while she spends time with him because they cant let go of each other, but to turn around and say sorry i cant accept anymore of this, u meant to be getting a divorce is a risk i have been too scared to take as i i feel that is the make or break of us.

 

Sorry to be long winded, any advice how to be cool , collected and win her back properly(when she ready) i would love... Its almost like she knows i want her so that gives her every right to control her sitting on the fence

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