MetroMan Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 Hi, I'm currently 22 years old. All through my life I've been your typical nerdy kid who studied hard and all I ever thought about was school. I never had a girlfriend or even held a girls hand in my life. I've finally graduated college and have finally found a job and moved out of my parent's house. My situation starts here. Last night while I was on the metro home from work at night (around 11pm) I saw a beautiful lady. About the same age as me and she just seemed perfect in every way to me. I was sitting on a seat on the metro and she sat a few seats down across from me. We never made eye contact or anything. However about 5-10minutes into the ride there was a drunk who also boarded the metro and started harassing the woman. All my life I have been afraid to stand up even for myself, yet despite this something in me drove me to get up and "try" to stop this man. I wasn't very successful but was able to start enough commotion to get the security on board to notice and finally put an end to the situation. When we finally got off the metro, the woman and I were both called into the office for records and questioning. Towards the end of the meeting with the security officer, the woman approached me and thanked me and asked if it was alright with me to give her my email and/or phone number in order to properly thank me.(She gave me hers as well) At the moment she was talking to me, I was way too nervous and finally managed to push out a few words and give her the information she requested. Finally we reach this moment. I've received one phone call from her this afternoon while I was busy at work and wasn't able to return the phone call. I'm very confused about this whole situation right now and find my self constantly thinking about everything that happened last night and her. It would be very helpful if someone can give me some helpful advice as to my next approach. Thank you to everyone in advance for your help!
Left in a Lurch Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 If you like ice cream you eat it. If you like baseball, you play it. If you like reading, you read. If you like this girl, you spend time with her. The more you romanticize it, the more different it will be in reality. Sit back, enjoy the ride, take it as it comes. Don't place any expectations or make any future plans. Make sure you have fun and enjoy the ride while it is happening. Worry about the present and not what might be. Call her, see what she wants to do, and don't worry about everything being perfect because it won't be. Take it for what it is, a fun time.
ExiledLyCan Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 next step of action? pretty obvious in my opinion... call her :] don't be nervous, dont hesitate, dont think of her as a high and mighty being please update if you dont mind, interested in outcome
Ruby Slippers Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 She's just a girl, and she seems to be interested in you. Take some deep breaths and spend time with her as a person, not as a goddess. Call her and ask her out! You have the decided advantage of starting off as being "her hero". Girls love that stuff.
looking4 green grass Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 Call her, and enjoy getting to know her.
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 You were her knight in shining armor so to speak. The fact that she approached you afterwards says volumes. Be fearless, you have to start sometime. Just be yourself and stay positive, you have the edge already. Have fun!
Hkizzle Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 Don't put too much feelings into it or you will get nervous and mess up. Just treat her like a friend, and get to know her. You've already got the upper hand in that she probably likes you and wants to get to know you.
ExiledLyCan Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 (edited) hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Edited October 8, 2009 by ExiledLyCan
Author MetroMan Posted October 8, 2009 Author Posted October 8, 2009 First thanks everyone for their input! Last night after readings everyones comments and looking at my phone for nearly 2hours, I finally pulled my self together and gave her a call. We had a little chat, no longer than 5minutes. She just thanked me again for my actions the other night. Aside from that she also mentioned something about lunch if it wasn't too much of a problem some day. We didn't specify a date or time or anything. With that we ended our conversation. In addition she also sent me a set of teacups as a thank you gift to me. I've never been a fan of tea and know nothing of them. They are a set of 4 white Hermes teacups. I feel like I should thank her for these cups. Yet I don't know what to do, please help me once again! Thank you!!!
Hkizzle Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 First thanks everyone for their input! Last night after readings everyones comments and looking at my phone for nearly 2hours, I finally pulled my self together and gave her a call. We had a little chat, no longer than 5minutes. She just thanked me again for my actions the other night. Aside from that she also mentioned something about lunch if it wasn't too much of a problem some day. We didn't specify a date or time or anything. With that we ended our conversation. In addition she also sent me a set of teacups as a thank you gift to me. I've never been a fan of tea and know nothing of them. They are a set of 4 white Hermes teacups. I feel like I should thank her for these cups. Yet I don't know what to do, please help me once again! Thank you!!! Well you should have asked you out when you called. Now she's sent you teacups what more excuse do you want? Call her up, thank her for the teacups and ask her if she wants to go out for dinner next Sat. Again, just pretend you're asking a friend out for dinner and don't freak out. Would you not know what to do when having dinner with a friend?
rossipoo Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 Obviously, you should ask her over for tea. Got to the store, find some nice ones, and then call her back say Hey thanks again for the set maybe you'd like to come over and enjoy a cup together. This time say when is good for you. If it's not also good for her, ask her when is.
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