Logic Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Hey everyone! I met this girl online recently and she was all over me. She kept complimenting me and telling me how cute I was. I asked for her number and she gave it to me and basically she seemed really interested. I thought cool she likes me! I even asked her out and she said yes. But only a day or two later and I'm not so sure anymore. She said she would text me but didnt and she takes a really long time to reply when we talk online. I'm just not sure anymore I feel like she's either deliberately making me wait OR she's not that interested?!? I know that she has a lot of guys interested in her so maybe its something to do with that. Is she just leading me on? Or does she actually like me? What should I do? Should I chase her and show her that I want to be with her? Risking the clingy tag. OR should I play it cool and be interested in her but not that interested? Risking not giving her enough attention. Any advice would be appreciated
Roxanna Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 You asked her out and she said yes....so did you two go out?
Author Logic Posted October 6, 2009 Author Posted October 6, 2009 ^ No I asked her out, she said Yes but then we got lost in other conversation. She brought it up and asked if i was serious but I just made a joke about it.
Roxanna Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 ^ No I asked her out, she said Yes but then we got lost in other conversation. She brought it up and asked if i was serious but I just made a joke about it. Is this for real? If it is, no wonder she lost interest; you totally blew it.
robinincarolina Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 She is probably busy and you have not given her the incentive to become un busy. Some girls do want you to do the chasing, I being one of them. I will return the efforts, but cetainly will not be the one to lead. Clingy, needy insecure women do the chasing, confindent secure women sit back and let you be the man. Just my opinion. A little mystery on your part does not hurt anything though, humor and witt go a long ways.
boogieboy Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 (edited) You cant joke about serious questions like the one she asked you. She thought you werent serious and moved on to someone else. You can pursue her if you want, but youre probably wasting your time now. Once they focus on someone else, youre SOL. Edited October 6, 2009 by boogieboy
Author Logic Posted October 6, 2009 Author Posted October 6, 2009 ^ LOL i doubt she moved on to someone else in just 1 day. Thanks anyway. Is this for real? If it is, no wonder she lost interest; you totally blew it. Hmm maybe but I was just teasing her so hopefully it's not that bad. I know she still likes me. I guess if i've blown it then I'll find out pretty soon. But if she really likes me then i'm sure she can get over 1 joke. If she can't then she's probably blown it just as much as me. She is probably busy and you have not given her the incentive to become un busy. Some girls do want you to do the chasing, I being one of them. I will return the efforts, but cetainly will not be the one to lead. Clingy, needy insecure women do the chasing, confindent secure women sit back and let you be the man. Just my opinion. A little mystery on your part does not hurt anything though, humor and witt go a long ways. Hi Robin, thanks that makes a lot of sense. Maybe the baggage of my previous relationship means that I was letting her chase me rather than the other way around. I definately agree with the mystery part but perhaps I've been a bit too mysterious for an opening.
Roxanna Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Well let's see...she's interested. You ask her out. Then you change the subject, causing her to ask if you really wanted to take her out. And you JOKE about it. AS A RESULT, she appears to be less interested. And honestly, I would be too. Just ask her out and take her out. Otherwise, why should she waste her time on someone like you who is acting uninterested?
Author Logic Posted October 6, 2009 Author Posted October 6, 2009 ^ I didnt change the subject, the conversation just naturally flowed onto something else. As for the rest your probably right. We'll see I suppose *sigh*.
Monster Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 Logic, If you want to take her out on a date, you've got to be crystal clear about the fact that you want to take her out and that it is a date. If you're not clear, she will likely assume you are not very interested. Trust me on this one. I've been there.
boogieboy Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 ^ LOL i doubt she moved on to someone else in just 1 day. Thanks anyway. . Dont ever walk around life thinking that the girl your trying to date has you as her only option. She probably had someone else she was interested in already, and when you acted funny, she moved to him. Otherwise she'd still be talking to you.
Author Logic Posted October 7, 2009 Author Posted October 7, 2009 ^ Dude I don't know what planet your on. I've said in my original post that she has options with other guys and at no point have I said that she's stopped talking to me. @ Monster - Thx that sounds like good advice I'll definately remember that! Update: I spoke to her and sort of slipped in an apology for joking about the going out thing. She said she knew I was joking and she likes a guy with a sense of humour. So no harm done. As for the slow/lack of communication, she said she was really busy with some things so Robin was on the mark with that. We had a good talk today so hopefully things will move in the right direction. Thanks everyone .
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