gypsi Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Wow almost been a year its insane, been 3 months no contact and yes it still kills me and i would really STILL want her back. I met someone new who is an all around great person, everything anyone would want! But here's the dillema when ever i am with her i think of my ex, i secretly wish she was my ex when i kiss her i dont get butterflies infact i avoid kissing her...which makes me feel bad coz she's really into me and i DO like her but for F#$$# sakes im still pining for the damn ex! What do i do?? Lose an amazing person..? And here's another thing i have become anti social, and i would honestly rather be alone remenicing about the days i was with my ex. Some say it takes two years for a broken heart to heal any truth in that?
GrayClouds Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Wow almost been a year its insane, been 3 months no contact and yes it still kills me and i would really STILL want her back. I met someone new who is an all around great person, everything anyone would want! But here's the dillema when ever i am with her i think of my ex, i secretly wish she was my ex when i kiss her i dont get butterflies infact i avoid kissing her...which makes me feel bad coz she's really into me and i DO like her but for F#$$# sakes im still pining for the damn ex! What do i do?? Lose an amazing person..? And here's another thing i have become anti social, and i would honestly rather be alone remenicing about the days i was with my ex. Some say it takes two years for a broken heart to heal any truth in that? Everyone and every relationship is on a different time table. It may have been 8 months but you only started letting go 3 months ago. You have not healed yet. That is ok. Though that creates another issue for you. You are not being fair to this other girl. You need to be honest with her and tell her that you think she is grea but your still trying to get over your previous relationship. Once that happens you would like to give you two a chance if she is willing and available but it may be some time before your close to letting that happen. You dont wnat to string her along and hurt her becouse of your issues. She does not deserve that.
Author gypsi Posted October 6, 2009 Author Posted October 6, 2009 yes i have been very clear about my feelings for the ex, i dont want to hurt or waste anyone's time. I will make it clear to her that for now i ONLY want to be friends. Who knows maybe in time i will eventually fall for her, but im not in to stringing people along at all. And i do think i am only at 3 months of getting over her, i honestly did believe that we would get back together but i havent heard a word from her, she has just dissapeared and i wont text or call her at all, so who knows maybe one day il bump in to her again. Thanks for the advice grey
Nikki Sahagin Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Been 5 months for me. I went into a bit of a rebound situation. The kisses/sex felt special but there was something missing....maybe the uniqueness of it being my ex (the first person I ever did anything with) so I ended the 'rebound' (he was partially a rebound but I did have genuine feelings for him) It sucks because I both love and can't stand my ex.... but I can't really stand any other guys either. He is still the pinnacle I hold other guys up to...even though he aggitates me...it makes no sense. But its the memory of what he was, which is so difficult to ignore, it really is. I realise he didn't live up to the reality of my expectations, but why then is that memory (maybe a false one) so stuck in my mind. I mean I remember us playing games together, writing love notes, drawing pictures on paint...things that made me think forever. I can't think thats false, but yet here he is, throwing me away. I think sometimes i'm still in shock. I'm scared I won't be able to trust the word forever again.
Author gypsi Posted October 7, 2009 Author Posted October 7, 2009 yes its like eating your fav cake but leaving out one ingredient it just doesent taste the same and you always long for that same taste ;-) that just puts me off the cake (relationships) entirely i would rather be alone and miserable than be with someone however great they may be than fake feeling something special for them when in fact inside im numb. I have become so pathetic that i actually went to a tarot reader today lol! What a load of #%## but apparently i will fall in love with some one this up and coming week, geez sounds like reading my horoscope out of a glossy mag and these people make money out of this ****!
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 I could honestly say it took a good year and a half-ish to get over my main ex. So that time span sounds about right (to me, every situation is different). It does happen, sometimes you just have to wait it out, but I'm a firm believer that you can control your feelings more than you think. It requires a lot of effort and a LOT of fearlessness. I say fearlessness because you have to be unafraid to let them go- which is the hardest part. In the end though you will get sick of feeling like that, and you'll get off your arse and start getting on with your life, bettering yourself. Then you'll attract a girl that blows your ex away by comparisson. And something will snap inside you and you'll say "finally". That's how it happened for me anyway. :p:p Also, stay off those stupid horoscopes, and stop wasting your money. If you must put faith in something, put it in God.
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