red shoes Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 How do you know a guy's asking you out on a first date or just a friendly thing? A friend told me she has guy friends that ask her out for casual lunches or afternoon teas. What are the signs during a get-together to look out for to determine whether it's a date?
Trialbyfire Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 If you're questioning if it's a real date, it probably isn't one. There's a dynamic between you and the guy asking, something that can't be missed. Body language, facial expressions, what he says and how he says it. In a nutshell, the social cues would be unmistakeable. If you have difficulties with social cues, just ask "Are you asking me out?" in a teasing and flirtatious manner.
WTRanger Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 He pays is a big clue. Bingo! From all what I've been told by various females I have taken out or maybe taken out, or quite possibly not taken out. The date defining rules almost always revolves around the bill.
Author red shoes Posted October 7, 2009 Author Posted October 7, 2009 Besides paying, what about setting the next dates? If he pays but doesn't set the next dates, is that a real first date?
Trialbyfire Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 Besides paying, what about setting the next dates? If he pays but doesn't set the next dates, is that a real first date?Okay, this makes no sense at all. If you had a date, you had a date. It's like saying an ONS isn't sex, since you didn't do it a second time.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 Besides paying, what about setting the next dates? If he pays but doesn't set the next dates, is that a real first date? What happens next doesn't change whether or not it's a date -- only determines whether or not you have a second date. For me, a date is defined by: 1. An invitation. 2. At least mild flirtation.
littlewhiterose Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 Yup. 1. An invitation. 2. Acceptance of said invitation- for starters. Of course the results will vary but yeah, I'd think that'd be it.
Author red shoes Posted October 7, 2009 Author Posted October 7, 2009 I'm not trying to split hairs but can't the invitation be a friendly one? Especially when neither party said specifically that he/she wants to take the other on a date?
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