lostmyprincess Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 (edited) [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I will start out by telling the truth something that has seemed hard for me to do the last couple of weeks I lied to my girlfriend. [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Some back-story the girlfriend and I started talking several months ago we were introduced by a common friend. It started off very friendly talking every day online because currently I’m not in the same country as her do to work. So the chatting continued we grew fonder of each other everything was clicking. Being so far away and not having a really exciting job and much to share while we chatted I started listening to her talk about certain books she has read and decided to purchase a certain book. How Not to Fall in Love with a Jerk a great book and not only a great conversation piece a really eye opening book about relationships. She was really excited about me listening to her something I love to do she is one of the most interesting people I have ever met. So to continue with the story we continued talking a decided we might be interested in dating each other. I had leave coming up soon and I was ready to spend my 15 days getting to know this woman who has taken up so much of my time that I was so willing to give up to her she is great. Leave comes around we spend a romantic couple of days all alone in the mountains driving around a visiting local shops in the area and just enjoying each other’s company. Returning home we spent every night together and day I was enjoying just doing the simple things with her grocery shopping, taking trips to Wal Mart, and just hanging out watching TV. I introduced her to my family and my few friends who were around since most of them were out of country as well. The family loved her then there was my best friend a woman who we met up with that afternoon. Let me back step for a moment though I knew my friend had been reading the twilight series so a few days prior to the family visit I had purchased a book for her with my girlfriend and was going to introduce them. I ask my GF to stay in the car since I didn’t call prior and I didn’t want to surprise her with someone at the door. So I went inside and asked if she would meet my GF she gave me excuses she didn’t have her makeup on the baby was asleep. So I told my GF and I could tell she was upset but she didn’t t really say anything. Ok, so at this point I’m sure your thinking you idiot and I was. This girl means the world to me she should be on my hip it’s a package deal. Back to the dinner … We arrived at the apartment I noticed my friend was very cold to my GF (red flag!) I still didn’t t say anything. On the drive my friend joked about how people always confused us for being a couple ( big red Flag) and how she thought it was funny also she didn’t want me to tell her long time BF and father of her children that I had got the book for her ( red flag) . Her BF is a great guy we have talked many times and hung out a few but if put myself in his shoes I’m sure I would hate me. The dinner was awkward at best and the drive home was the same and when the friend got out of the car she didn’t even say bye to the gf (I didn’t notice the gf told me) I asked the GF as we pulled away what she thought and she let me have it said she didn’t t like her at all. So on our drive back to her place the GF was different and when we arrived and were going to go to sleep for the night we talked more about. The friend texts too much, she was rude, she was being tacky, and she wasn’t friendly and when the GF said all of this things started clicking together. This woman has always gotten this way when I had a GF and I have always swept it under the rug but not this time. The next day I had to return to work the GF dropped me off at the airport and we shared a kiss and said our good byes.[/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Well, that was the beginning of our relationship but let’s get into were the problems start. Me being the biggest problem. I told my gf I would start cutting ties with the friend since this was reoccurring behavior for her. First step, I erased MYSPACE account this was the primary way I spoke with the friend. I started keeping conversations short on Face book with her and about random topics. [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]So the girlfriend and I are getting along great again. Then a topic comes up he were talking about nude pictures and I told her that I had never gotten any from past girls. ((( I lied here I don’t know why or what I was thinking this woman has always been understanding to me and didn’t judge me for things that have happened in my past, I am so stupid))) The GF and I exchanged passwords for accounts so I could view pictures on her face book that I couldn’t see from my account. I gave her my passwords as well I had nothing to hide from this woman or did I? My friend had written me on face book and said she had gotten my text from Skype account that I had sent. My goal with the text was to get her online to chat and ask about back home and how her kids were doing. The Face book msg she sent also included how she wanted to go see a movie called Jennifer’s Body with me because we have always gone to see lame movies like this together. She also asked what the date with the heart on my face book account was. I didn’t write back to her and I was scared what my gf would think I erased the msg (Tell me this doesn’t make me look like I’m hiding something)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]So…. Last night everything thing came to a head. The GF told me she had a big problem with me and I asked her to explain. She asked about pictures again and I told her the truth and I told her about graphic pics that I had never erased off of my email that was filled with spam emails there was over 2000 but these pictures were on here to. I was too lazy to erase these pictures knowing my GF had access to this account I was too worried about having to erase these emails than worried about hurting the girl that I care about so much. I saw were my gf was coming from I wouldn’t want to look through her email and find pictures of penis everywhere. But that takes a backseat I shouldn’t have lied in the first place I knew my GF had problems with men lying to her in the past and being cheaters and I was too scared to tell her the truth .The worst part was my Gf thinks I took all these emails these pictures were sent to me and I emailed myself the pictures. I know I should have been erased these pictures at the end of the relationships or in a few cases just talking to these girls. The GF also brought up the best friend thing she had read the message and since I erased it I looked like I was hiding something and she thinks that I have been doing this all along. Last night I promptly erased every email in the account out of respect for her and there was no point in having these pictures in the first place and after that I sent an email to the friend saying the attitude she has when I’m in a relationship is unacceptable and I think it would be best if we weren’t friends anymore. This was hard to do since he have been friends going on 5 years but the GF was right and I will never be able to move forward to where I want in a relationship. We talked for 4hours about everything and we had a better understanding by the end of the conversation. I got around an hour of the worst sleep of my life and the conversation continued the lying was still troubling her with good reason. In a very nice she broke up with me and told me we need to cool it off till I come home for good then we could go on dates and that was it so starting from square one.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I expect to get bashed on here and deserve it for the lying, the pictures, and losing the greatest thing to ever walk into my life. Honesty is the best policy I know that more than ever. I feel so ashamed of myself this woman has been nothing but well to me. She is beautiful, intelligent, caring, and has the best personality I have ever been exposed to. I didn’t lose my best friend from an email I lost my real best friend by telling a lie.[/sIZE][/FONT] Edited October 6, 2009 by lostmyprincess
EarthGirl Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 sounds almost exactly like what happened to me (I guess I would be the "GF" from my perspective, except he never made it clear who was the "GF" or who was the "best friend" to either me or the other girl which was part of the problem of course). except nobody has ever called me a princess. The world though is full of stories that happen again and again to different people in different places just names and places changed. yeah it was kinda hard to get through though, I think I got the gist...I hate when people get all testy here about paragraph breaks and grammar and little things like that, but I have always had a particularly hard time losing my place when reading even where there are frequent breaks..So I understand that people don't want to take the time to try to get their eyes to understand a whole long thing like that. I know that when you are worried and stressed and trying to get out your thoughts it's easy to forget, but if you really want responses, you will get a lot more if you make it easily readable.
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