zimzimmer Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 To cut a long story short, she just emailed me about msn blocker and dangers of my information being hacked etc, then proceeded to ask how i am and how she did not know what to say to me after the last week. But insisted she wants to be in touch with me still and when i am ready wants to still be 'friends'. Why has she emailed me this? She wanted to be in a relationship with me intially, then wanted to take a step back because it was going too fast, then said she did not want a deep a relationship but STILL wants to be friends?? I really don't understand women..I am confused, please someone explain to me what she is thinking.
Chrome Barracuda Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 To cut a long story short, she just emailed me about msn blocker and dangers of my information being hacked etc, then proceeded to ask how i am and how she did not know what to say to me after the last week. But insisted she wants to be in touch with me still and when i am ready wants to still be 'friends'. Why has she emailed me this? She wanted to be in a relationship with me intially, then wanted to take a step back because it was going too fast, then said she did not want a deep a relationship but STILL wants to be friends?? I really don't understand women..I am confused, please someone explain to me what she is thinking. Its called keeping you as a backup plan. Dont do it bro. If she cant be a real woman and tell you what she wants, and plays games with your feelings then ignore her. she isnt worth the time.
Author zimzimmer Posted October 6, 2009 Author Posted October 6, 2009 It is so hard when you still care for them in more than friends way. Worse still, i don't hate or dislike her so all my emotions are messed up right now..
smookie Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 And they will not change , your emotions will continue to be messed up. I tried to be my ex's friend and I had the hardest time with it, at times he was so nice then he was cold and crule. I ended up being so hurt in the end. But I backed off right away when I seen and felt this happening to me, it has only been 3 days of complete NC (and like 40th round of it) but I will not allow him to string me along anymore. Really do not be her friend until your feelings are not as strong for her.
Turista Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Don't do it!!! My ex sent me a birthday card last week and all it managed to do was make me break into tears... Then this weekend I learned that she rebounded with a pornographer during our first breakup and I'm getting better at last... Not only did she really settle in comparison to all her bluster about previously dating CEOs and hedge funders, but hey, I beat out a porn star for the love of crazy chick. I rock (just joking). Because in the end all I really miss is being close to her body. She had long since become entirely emotionally unavailable and treated me like an inconvenient hanger on. And while she still tugs a little on my heart, the weekend's revelation flipped the bozo bit on her. And even when she was emotionally available in the first few months, she had the soul of a small child that only knew that it wanted things ranging from $10,000 wedding rings to $100,000 wedding ceremonies to suggesting I get plastic surgery to please her. And a prenup of course since at the time she was millionaire - no longer. She has the financial acumen of a small child as well. Her only real world skill is babing up and diverting the blood supply of men to their other head and that's in its Autumn years. And to think I almost married her and had even bought the diamond, yeesh.. SO DON'T LET HER BACK IN! That way leads to madness... There are so many other women out there ready for you once your clear your head. Just remember that there are just as many crappy men out there as women...
Author zimzimmer Posted October 6, 2009 Author Posted October 6, 2009 'Hope your ok, havent been in touch because i wasnt sure how appropriate it would be and was sure what to say really... I have those dvd of yours, shall i send it to you in the post? I assume thats what you were referring to when you said you wanted to get your stuff back? If you ever need a chat - you may not want to speak to me now.. but if/when you do ... then im happy to be friends if/when your ready...' this is what she emailed me, this is so hard why is she still trying to be so nice? i dunno what to do:mad:
NopeNah Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Ignore it. It means nothing at all. Why do you need to tell her to send your things? She should just send it. Ignore her forever! You are now dead and gone to her.
Author zimzimmer Posted October 6, 2009 Author Posted October 6, 2009 it's just an excuse to get in touch with me to see how i am! she is clearly making the effort to talk to me for whatever reason it maybe..
NopeNah Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 You are correct. Shes dangling her line to see if you're still on her hook. Don't be! If she's not showing actions that she wants you back, she deserves NONE of you..No friendly hellos, how are you,ect.. She made the choice to leave and be done with you...let her have exactly what she wanted...NOTHING from you anymore..
Author zimzimmer Posted October 6, 2009 Author Posted October 6, 2009 lol! I am though that's the thing, these games are so stupid. She either with me or not, no half way road. Damn women, they don't even know what they want!
Turista Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 (edited) 'Hope your ok, havent been in touch because i wasnt sure how appropriate it would be and was sure what to say really... I have those dvd of yours, shall i send it to you in the post? I assume thats what you were referring to when you said you wanted to get your stuff back? If you ever need a chat - you may not want to speak to me now.. but if/when you do ... then im happy to be friends if/when your ready...' this is what she emailed me, this is so hard why is she still trying to be so nice? i dunno what to do:mad: Well, if you enjoy the thought of being dominated and humiliated for kicks for the rest of your life, she seems like your dream girl. If instead you've discovered that you're actually not some worthless piece of filth stuck to the bottom of her shoe, it's time to NC and find someone else worthy of your quality obsession time... Edited October 6, 2009 by Turista
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