Northwesthunny Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 OK so my ex split up with me part way through his afghan tour in June. Before this everything was great - even whilst on tour we were making plans and he was asking me to send him stuff. Until i got a call at the end of june and i was heartbroken. He came to see me when he was on leave in august because i needed him to explain - which he came to see me but didnt explain anything just kept giving me the 'i dont know why' as an answer. Anyway i did n/c with him when he went back to afghan, and still doing nc. it just seems to be getting harder not easier, im stil having the dreams at night and waking up thinking of him. I know that his tour is soon to finish and he will be back but still like i said things are getting harder. Any advice
Nedved Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 I can relate to you regarding the dreams because i still dream of my ex who broke up with me in may after a 4 year relationship and bar 2 text messages to each other about 6 weeks ago its been over 4 months since we spoke. Its cruel and when you wake up it can be very sad and depressing. Its a longing for a person that just is'nt there anymore. Even now i can get sad when i dream of her but it dose'nt last as long now. Would you take him back if he asks when he returns? maybe your living in hope a little that he will have a change of heart when he gets back? But on a positive note your doing the right thing going NC. 3 months NC is'nt easy as anybody will tell you on LS. So give yourself a pat on the back there. Good job. hang in there and keep breathing and keeping yourself busy. Do you have a busy social life? Do you go to th gym or meet freinds regular? Don't be so hard on yourself either. you are getting better and it has'nt been that long. Your doing everything right by maintaining NC and you'l get there.
Author Northwesthunny Posted October 6, 2009 Author Posted October 6, 2009 I can relate to you regarding the dreams because i still dream of my ex who broke up with me in may after a 4 year relationship and bar 2 text messages to each other about 6 weeks ago its been over 4 months since we spoke. Its cruel and when you wake up it can be very sad and depressing. Its a longing for a person that just is'nt there anymore. Even now i can get sad when i dream of her but it dose'nt last as long now. Would you take him back if he asks when he returns? maybe your living in hope a little that he will have a change of heart when he gets back? But on a positive note your doing the right thing going NC. 3 months NC is'nt easy as anybody will tell you on LS. So give yourself a pat on the back there. Good job. hang in there and keep breathing and keeping yourself busy. Do you have a busy social life? Do you go to th gym or meet freinds regular? Don't be so hard on yourself either. you are getting better and it has'nt been that long. Your doing everything right by maintaining NC and you'l get there. Thanks, yes it is hard and i do feel so depressed when i wake up - there is days where i just want to stay in bed all day or laze around in my pjs, i sometimes think that if i didnt have work i would still be in bed. I would take him back, and i think your right i am holding onto the hope, as well as it not seeming real that im not with him any more iykwim. When i was with him when he was out there i didnt get much contact with him so i think that now i know he is due to come back it will start to get real. It hasnt been 3 month no contact just over a month as i saw him when he was back on leave and i sent him a letter when he went back to get things off my chest (and a sort of last goodbye)
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