JL911 Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 (edited) Its been months since the break up now and Im just letting everyone know how it is almost a relief at this point to be done with this and seeing myself moving on. I had a bad period where I just didnt know how I would get by. I thought I had depression, I thought i needed medication, I thought everything was all my fault. Im moving forward... Ive met a couple people who I am attracted to...one I am fairly sure I like even more than my ex...But I dont know how she feels about me just yet...Im trying to lay low a bit on her and not get too carried away too fast... No contact gets you past the shock...through the awe...and past all the punishing fears and doubts you have about yourself. I got into therapy and it has really helped me in moving forward and getting past all of this BS.... I wish everyone well. Just wanted to check back in and let everyone know there is a life outside of your relationship...One you might be really missing out on...I know how hard it is in the beginning, but things eventually stabilize and you start to just move on.... I can honestly say that LoveShack has helped my progress significantly in seeing that I was not the only person who has had this happen to them... The post below that is linked in my sig is by far the most profound piece I feel I have contributed to LoveShack and hope you read it...It was written during an angry phase of my coping, but if you read it and understand it and believe it...Its 100% true.... Edited October 5, 2009 by JL911
Lamak Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Sounds like you're doing good. You're doing good on the whole laying low thing, that's what you need to being doing for now. In about a month you'll be home free.
coliflower Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Its good to read posts like this. It gives me hope for the future. My break up was 4 months ago after a 4yr relationship and to be honest im having a tough time and this makes me realise it will get better. I dont have a great support network so being on here helps! Thanks
Author JL911 Posted October 6, 2009 Author Posted October 6, 2009 I sought out my own support group....I checked myself into therapy....Started trying to talk to girls...At first it was very very very bad...Nothing felt right...Nothing seemed to be right...I felt like I was almost cheating trying to move on... It is amazing how many attractive girls are intrigued by a 26 year old man with a decent job, a family, a new truck, and a boat...lol...For awhile I didnt know how I would ever get back to where I was...Now its almost a gift to have the freedom to roam the world without answering to anyone as I have been the past few weeks... Drinking was the absolute worst thing for me when this all happened...Drunk and depressed was all I got. I was thrown out of 2 bars for trying to start fights for any reason I could. I took 2 months off from drinking, got through my temporary depression and realized that I have a life to live. I can now drink laugh and have a great time without becoming gloomy or sad... I dont know why it seems its only taken me a few months to pan out my life...Maybe I am emotionally stronger than I give myself credit for...I dunno...Either way I wish you all the best life has to offer. I hope someday you find true happiness, but you need to remember no single person has control over you being happy or not...
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