How do you describe the ideal love and relationship?

[whiteberry]

How do you describe the ideal love and relationship?

I know love consists of understanding and trust. But how do you describe (consider) true love? What are the most important things in a perfect relationship. Not exactly perfect but near to perfection.

[Trialbyfire]

Everyone is an individual, where they're raised in different ways and have different experiences in life. This means that what's ideal for one, isn't ideal for another.

 

Figure out what makes YOU tick. Then figure out what YOU need in someone else and in a relationship.

[anne1707]

As TBF said, it is different for every one. I think a good indicator of when it is right though is when working at your relationship does not feel like work.

[boldjack]

The perfect relationship? When one person is Boldjack, and the other person is a blonde with a big mouth and pigtails.

[boldjack]

Absolutely!! My thoughts aren't fit for public consumption!!:laugh:

[boldjack]

All right, I won't say anything more about your Avie. You description of the ideal relationship is pretty good, but i would add that where both partners are totally committed to the common relationship, each partner is also totally committed to suppporting the other persons personal growth. My wife supported me when I was in politics, and I supported her when she was in art school, good examples, because each instance didn't directly affect our marriage.

[sb129]

"Perfection" is subjective, and also requires work to maintain.

No R is perfect 100% of the time.

 

I agree with the others- what you want out of R may not be what I want etc etc, so you need to figure it out for yourself.

 

Some good common starting points are

1. Trust

2. Honesty

3. Fidelity

4. Good communication

5. Love

[pandagirl]

I'd like to end up with someone I can consider one of my best friends...who I still want to f***.

[Tayla]

its odd that based on the question it was assumed that it was a relationship involving couples and marriage.

 

I can have an ideal relationship with my best friend, with my siblings, with my co workers all of whom I love and have good communication skills. Then I wake up to reality and realize that its not possible to be idealistic or maintain that level. Once you reach perfection what is left? Really.

 

So as odd as it sounds, I didnt see the question in an intimate couple way so much as on a broader sense of relationships and how to measure them to ones level of ideal. Trust, respect, support, boundaries, and above all else, honesty.

[quankanne]

a book I'd read described "true love" as "loving someone who loves you back at the same time, in the same way. Otherwise, it's just unrequited love." Lotta truth to that.

 

solid love, however, is based on mutual respect, trust, fidelity, communication and the ability to laugh, IMO. Because if you can find the humor in the most painful of problems, things are gonna be okay.