Author jlr Posted November 11, 2009 Author Posted November 11, 2009 Yeah, you're right. They are excuses. She's become so comfortable with the confusion, that I think she chooses to stay there. When she reached out this time, I went for it because she apologized. She told me she was sorry and that she knows she's all messed up, etc. I was sort of shocked by her doing so, as that was a bit new. But now I can see from talking to her, that's she's not ready to change that. Admitting your problems is only the first step, she doesn't want to take the ones that come after. So now, after all this time, she KNOWS she's messed up and is apologetic. How long will it take for the other steps. I could be like 60 by then.
sean1970 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I'm going to buy a breadcrumb factory and name it 'Confused'... Who want in?
CaliGuy Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Have you ever had a friendship with and ex after time had passed? Not really. I don't see the need. They were once a part of my life but chose to walk away or I chose to walk away. In any case, I don't see a need they can meet as "friend" that can not be met by TRUE friends. Besides, when I am dating someone new, the last thing I want is a "friendship" with an ex. I think it would not do any justice to my current relationship. Besides, are they really a "friend" or more or less an acquaintance? That's not a friendship to me unless you talk often. And if you talk often, wouldn't that bother your current S/O? My opinion: Exes are exes for a reason. They are part of your past and should remain in your past.
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