BobSacamento Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 I'd tell him "Call me Saturday, if I'm not busy we'll see."
Author sunshine_08 Posted October 7, 2009 Author Posted October 7, 2009 after about the sixth apology and question on whether i would let him pick me up on saturday i said we'll see how the week goes.... he seems pretty determined and i think he knows why im being such a hard ass about things justifiably so. i know there could be a number of possibilities as to why he bailed and i think the only way for me to know for sure would be to take the risk and give him a second chance, if he bails again then i'll know he's a flake, if he doesn't and he stays true to being apologetic and super keen on making it up to me then we'll know.... afterall, i don't have anything to lose at this point, only been talking for a couple weeks now, it's not like i have strong feelings on the line. he called last night and we talked for almost 2 hrs, he opened up about himself which he originally wanted to do on our first date, which I understand i felt the same way about revealing personal details about my life to someone on the phone who id never met, but seeing as he bailed and he felt like total crap for doing so he decided to cause he really wants me to give him a second chance and for us to meet. i appreciated that, he didnt have to and we do get along really well..... ah well, only time will tell...
seoa Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 And you let a perfect stranger pick you up at your house on the first date? Sounds scary to me. You know nothing about this guy -- and you are showing him where you live before you've screened him at all. I must have missed this in the rest of the thread... OP - are you seriously not taking proper precautions here...? Have you already given him your address...? If you haven't, then don't do it - go read up on some basic internet-dating sensible procedures, and FOLLOW THEM... Also - you'll eventually learn, the best first date for internet-dating is 'just a coffee'... You want to meet in person, see if there's 'chemistry', see if they come across as being honest, etc... No need to waste more than an hour on it, if you like each other, he can always ask you out again... Going to the theatre is (a) too expensive, and (b) too much pressure, and © not a great way to get to know each other - you can't talk... after about the sixth apology and question on whether i would let him pick me up on saturday i said we'll see how the week goes.... You seem to be making this into a big deal - you barely know the guy, you were willing to date him already on that basis (when you didn't know if he was a flake or not) - let it go already... Do you want to set up a relationship dynamic where you're high-maintenance, and he's overly-apologetic...?
Author sunshine_08 Posted October 8, 2009 Author Posted October 8, 2009 hey guys, ok yes i made the dumb mistake of giving him my address, my bad i should know better, i am moving in a month if that's any consolation :\ anyhow, we are not goin to the show anymore we're just meeting for a drink that's it. do i really come across as high maintenance?
Author sunshine_08 Posted October 11, 2009 Author Posted October 11, 2009 hey all jus thought id give you guys an update. he showed up on saturday as rescheduled and it was great i'm glad i gave him another chance he seems like a good guy. lesson learnt here - things happen and ppl may have to cancel sometimes, it may be difficult to ascertain whether or not it was a blow off but i guess that's where u go with your gut feeling it's almost always the right one. thanks for all your views on my question, much appreciated, take care everyone!
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