blair08 Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 well of course under THAT premise it didn't work!!! if anyone says anything as retarded as "I love you so much that I want to share you with others" then they are being self-serving and completely moronic. However, this is different because it supposedly was conceptualized as a product of HER fantasies. That is totally different than him just going up to her out of the blue and saying "hey, I wanna share you." Plus, the idea is appealing to her too, it's not like he's trying to sell her on something that more judgemental crap. it's about whatever the two people that are in the relationship want to share and how they want to share it. just because the guy in your story was an idiot doesn't mean that everyone has to adhere to your standards. the funny thing is that I agree with most of you that OP shouldn't do this in the current situation...just the fact that she's worried about it "getting around" is a pretty good indicator that she's not certain if these are the types of guys that can aptly handle said situation, and that she's not 100% sure herself. and doing something like this when you're not totally sure is a pretty good indication that it's not going to be good. Woohoo call me out hunny call me out on MY story of my friend! Go with it. You see, she agreed to it because she already had low self esteem/worth, because she told me later on that was one of the reasons she went along with it. Him telling her "Oh I love you so much, I want to share you." And that she she felt it was the only way to keep him if she didn't. So don't me jumping on me because I gave an example of my friends situation years ago. I never said it was like that for all people. And, I also never said the OP couldn't do what she wanted.
AAlike Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Woohoo call me out hunny call me out on MY story of my friend! Go with it. I'm not saying your story was untrue - but there are very important fundamental differences between your friend's story and OP's. obviously you thought the two stories were somewhat similar or you wouldn't have felt the need to bring up the story of your friend. You see, she agreed to it because she already had low self esteem/worth, because she told me later on that was one of the reasons she went along with it. Him telling her "Oh I love you so much, I want to share you." And that she she felt it was the only way to keep him if she didn't. sure, and it's pretty obvious to see why in your friend's case it didn't work - agreeing to anything because you have low self-esteem is obviously going to self-destruct. it is also obvious that her BF was being a manipulative bastard, trying to appeal to his "love for her" to convince her to do something that she wasn't into. I agree 100% percent with your evaluation of your friend's case. I also think that OP's situation is night and day when compared to your friend's. So don't me jumping on me because I gave an example of my friends situation years ago. I never said it was like that for all people. And, I also never said the OP couldn't do what she wanted. ok, well, I thought that the statement about "two people sharing something special between each other not bringing in everyone under the sun" was a universal statement. It certainly has all of the condescention typical of the moral high-horse people on this board. If it wasn't, then I apologize - but I guess I just don't understand why you'd bring up a story involving completely different circumstances if you weren't trying to make some sort of a blanket statement.
blair08 Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 To the OP, hun do whatever you would like to do, ok. I mean goodness forbid people give you examples of certain situations. It doesn't mean you'll end up like any of them, but good luck in whatever you choose. AAlike- Its best to not waste alot of time on my example so try not to put to much energy into it like you are now, move along back to the OP. Its going to be ok.
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