SoulSearch_CO Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 As a follow-up of my "Who Pays Thread," I ask... What is the best way to say "Thank you?" I'd like to do something special. A gift? Just a card? Thank you email? If I went the gift route, it wouldn't be anything extravagant, just a simple thank you. For those that didn't read the other thread - guy I've been dating for 2 months - we went out of town for a business thing of his (which only lasted a few hours out of one of the 3 days we were there) together. He insisted on paying my way. The point of the trip was to help us kind of decide/define what was going on here - if it was worth it to us to keep going the direction we're going. (We're semi-long-distance and both have busy schedules - it's hard to date "in person." Much of our communication is phone/text/email.) So while I wasn't thrilled about having him pay for something quite that extravagant when we haven't known each other that long... as he put it, "it's not a normal progression, but what in our relationship has been?" And beyond this trip, it would be incredibly difficult to find a good amount of time to spend together when we're both at home. So anyway...now that I've fully explained why I agreed to it (if you have any further questions, feel free), let's move on. We had a great time. Lots of laughs. Get along well. Very similar sarcastic senses of humor (LOL...to be honest, I think there were may have been a couple times one, the other, or both of us would push too far...but we'd still laugh it off and playfully "poke" the other person.) Had some good conversations about things in our lives. Giggled, cuddled, fantastic chemistry. Went out on the town and had a TON of fun. Went to the gym together (so he could strut around the gym showing me his muscles and stare at my ass while I was running...LOL). Towards the end we were both a little tired. We were up until about 2am and for some freakish reason he always wake up at 6am without fail (but then usually takes a nap...which he didn't have time for). Woke me up about 7:30am to go get breakfast. So we were both a *little* sleep-deprived (him moreso than me) and he was missing his kids (he has primary custody). But parted with a GREAT kiss, a tight hug and a promise to talk soon. So all being said - I'd say things went great. I'd just like to really let him know I appreciated it. I did say thank you several times. But I want to do something a little bit more. (Before some smart-ass comes back saying "sex," that was covered. LOL) I'm leaning towards a card unless I can come up with a good gift idea.
Trialbyfire Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 I'm so glad you had a wonderful time!! Man > stomach > heart A romantic meal at home, cooked by you, with love, would be a nice way to thank him. Might I recommend candlelight and Tapas? Don't forget to feed him.
Sweetcheripie Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Sounds like you had a wonderful time. I think a card would be just perfect.
Sweetcheripie Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 I'm so glad you had a wonderful time!! Man > stomach > heart A romantic meal at home, cooked by you, with love, would be a nice way to thank him. Might I recommend candlelight and Tapas? Don't forget to feed him. Awesome idea.... I was thinking he was long distance but dinner would be perfect and make cookies to go to take home to his kids
splintered thing Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 So all being said - I'd say things went great. I'd just like to really let him know I appreciated it. I did say thank you several times. But I want to do something a little bit more. (Before some smart-ass comes back saying "sex," that was covered. LOL) I don't know if anything like this comes to mind (especially since you haven't known him that long), but I've always liked coming up with something, whether big or small, that shows I've been listening. (Whether in a relationship or with friends, I just make it a habit to quietly collect mental notes on what people like...so I can surprise them later.) For example, if there's a favorite wine or exotic dessert that he likes but wouldn't normally get for himself...or a book he remembers fondly from his childhood but has no idea what became of it...or just some random thing that's long been on his list of things to track down, but he's just never gotten around to it. Easier to do after you've known someone for longer, but worth a thought, nonetheless.
Author SoulSearch_CO Posted October 5, 2009 Author Posted October 5, 2009 I'm so glad you had a wonderful time!! Man > stomach > heart A romantic meal at home, cooked by you, with love, would be a nice way to thank him. Might I recommend candlelight and Tapas? Don't forget to feed him. It is a fantastic idea and I wish I could do this. For probably at least the next month, he's going to be stuck with his kids. Baby momma doesn't like having the kids very often and so having had them for 4 days straight is overkill - hence, she will not be anxious to have them back for awhile. Time is not on our side. I would love to do this...but not possible for awhile. I don't know if anything like this comes to mind (especially since you haven't known him that long), but I've always liked coming up with something, whether big or small, that shows I've been listening. (Whether in a relationship or with friends, I just make it a habit to quietly collect mental notes on what people like...so I can surprise them later.) For example, if there's a favorite wine or exotic dessert that he likes but wouldn't normally get for himself...or a book he remembers fondly from his childhood but has no idea what became of it...or just some random thing that's long been on his list of things to track down, but he's just never gotten around to it. Easier to do after you've known someone for longer, but worth a thought, nonetheless. I'm pretty good at picking up on these cues (like how my XH mentioned he loves pewter serving-accoutrement on our first date and I got him a beautiful Jefferson cup/serving tray set for one of our anniversaries), but can't come up with one single thing for current guy, really. I'm going to have to sit and think about it. For his profession, his slight metrosexuality (and sometimes his cockiness), he has suprisingly simple taste when it comes to buying stuff for himself. I'm kind of at a loss, but will really have to put my thinking cap on.
Trialbyfire Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Then I'd send him a nice thank-you card with a gift certificate to a romantic candlelit dinner at Chez SoulSearch's, made by Chef SSC, when he has his next free evening. This way, it can build the anticipation and be a great reason for getting together again, sooner, rather than later.
Author SoulSearch_CO Posted October 5, 2009 Author Posted October 5, 2009 Then I'd send him a nice thank-you card with a gift certificate to a romantic candlelit dinner at Chez SoulSearch's, made by Chef SSC, when he has his next free evening. This way, it can build the anticipation and be a great reason for getting together again, sooner, rather than later. OMG, that's cute. I'll have to work that somehow. Thanks, TBF.
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