Brady_to_Moss Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 I have such a hard time with trust. There are only 2 people i trust in this world. My mother and my father. The only 2 i can. When i rely on someone else, it always backfires just making trust that much harder. Its one of the reasons why i do not want a relationship. Hearing all these facts and stories that over 50% of people in R's are cheated on. No matter who the girl was, i would never be able to trust her. I know i am protecting myself from getting hurt by not trusting anyone but idk..its such a ****ty feeling. I dont mind staying single due to my trust issues, but its just a bad way to live This world is so messed up with what i see and hear everyday, that it seems hard for me to trust ANYONE
You'reasian Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 I have such a hard time with trust. There are only 2 people i trust in this world. My mother and my father. The only 2 i can. When i rely on someone else, it always backfires just making trust that much harder. Its one of the reasons why i do not want a relationship. Hearing all these facts and stories that over 50% of people in R's are cheated on. No matter who the girl was, i would never be able to trust her. I know i am protecting myself from getting hurt by not trusting anyone but idk..its such a ****ty feeling. I dont mind staying single due to my trust issues, but its just a bad way to live This world is so messed up with what i see and hear everyday, that it seems hard for me to trust ANYONE Be brave. Learn to trust - but do it smartly.
EcstasyX6 Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 I've spent much of my life not trusting men because boys hurt me when I was young. I was a tomboy, and before I blossomed, they crucified me. I wasted so much time not opening up my heart that I never really experienced a full loving relationship(Someone loved me, but I wouldn't allow myself to trust, so I never fell in love. Subsequently all kinds of problems ensued). Finally, I have someone in my life who I believe loves me, and I am choosing to open my heart up to him completely. Love and trust is a choice. He could hurt me, but it's a chance that I'm willing to take. You have to be willing to take that chance, and understand that once you do, there are no guarantees.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted October 5, 2009 Author Posted October 5, 2009 Love and trust is a choice. He could hurt me, but it's a chance that I'm willing to take. You have to be willing to take that chance, and understand that once you do, there are no guarantees. I just feel like i never want to take that chance
Jaytb Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 there are some bad people around but there are also great people out there. You just have to find a good person and that's it. So many people around here seem to focus on the bad ones and never make a peep about the good ones.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted October 5, 2009 Author Posted October 5, 2009 there are some bad people around but there are also great people out there. You just have to find a good person and that's it. So many people around here seem to focus on the bad ones and never make a peep about the good ones. Dont get me wrong, all my friends are good people...i just cant trust them. Like if i asked my buddy to bring my calculator to class, and he says okay and then forgets to bring it? I just cant trust people even for a simple task.
Jaytb Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Dont get me wrong, all my friends are good people...i just cant trust them. Like if i asked my buddy to bring my calculator to class, and he says okay and then forgets to bring it? I just cant trust people even for a simple task. haha. Some people you can't trust. But there should be some you can. As You'reasian said, do it smartly.
luvflower Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 you're not alone at all...this is the way i feel about men in relationships. i hear and see so many hearts being broken around me,on t.v and it's been me quite a few times. no matter how beautiful she may be or how good she makes a man feel,there is a good chance he's gonna cheat. many people are so corrupt these days and want that "wanton gratification" . i believe my trust issues stem from my father not ebing there for my sister and mother when he and my mother seperated...i was only 4.he constantly says "i love you" to me and i hate hearing it from him b/c to me it means nothing coming from him.ive had only a few sessions fo counseling for related issues b/c my lack of a funtioning relationship with him has affected many of my other relationships with men. i just cant seem to trust and in turn i don't allow myself to be as confident as i'd like to be... i hope things get better for you..
Hkizzle Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Rather having high expectations of humanity and getting disappointed all the time you should do what I do. EVERYONE is a scumbag until proven otherwise. That way you can learn to protect yourself and someone has to earn your trust.
BobSacamento Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 People aren't perfect, they will make mistakes. That's life. The only way you can develop a think skin is to get out there and take it head on. To become a recluse will leave you weak and alone. I don't know why but I take comfort in the fact in knowing people aren't perfect. It's not that I have lowered expectations for people in general it's just that I believe strongly in the power of forgiveness.
Lucky_One Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 You're a whopping 20 years old. There are thousands of wonderful women and men out in your community who are trustworthy. Stop bemoaning all the negatives in life, stop being melodramatic over trust because someone forgot to bring your calculator to class, and stop taking steroids. Maybe your negative attitude towards women, trust, relationships and dating comes from messing with your chemical balance.
lino Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 This world is so messed up with what i see and hear everyday, that it seems hard for me to trust ANYONE True, the world is a pretty ***** place but you must have some close people around who you can trust? and stop taking steroids. Is this true? If you're on the juice, stop! Nothing good will come of that.
Trialbyfire Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Brady, take a good hard look at your relationship with your parents. Did they ever fully trust you to accomplish something on your own? Were their expectations of you, set at a very high bar? Now apply the answers of the above, to your expectations of friends and potential partners.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted October 5, 2009 Author Posted October 5, 2009 (edited) Is this true? If you're on the juice, stop! Nothing good will come of that. HGH...Its nothing like steroids out there Maybe your negative attitude towards women, trust, relationships and dating comes from messing with your chemical balance. Nope. I haven't even been on it for 3 weeks now. A lot more positive now about it than i ever was before in my life. I have come to realize that you cant wait for something to happen, you have to do it yourself. You can't rely on people. Its a dog eat dog world out there and only the stong survive. I dont mind being single one bit. So nice to do what i want, when i want Edited October 5, 2009 by Brady_to_Moss
lino Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Doesn't matter. You shouldn't be messing around with crap like that and it isn't going to help you with your physique in the long run, just f*ck up your health. Also I think you've misquoted me there with another member.
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