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I didn't think I'd have to post here again, but here I am. So, he left me at the beginning of February after 15 months together, no real explanation, just said he fell out of love, even though he told me he loved me and would never leave just an hour before he broke up with me. I was shocked and heartbroken and wouldn't leave him alone for a few weeks. He blocked me. Just four days later he was back and said he couldn't lose me completely. So we picked up as a friends, but he had so many girlfriends over the next few months and I really struggled. Eventually it all got too much and two months ago I cut all contact. To my relief he never tried to contact me as a mutual friend had explained that I just wanted to move on.

 

Fast forward to now. We met at the end of October 2007. Today, for the first time since we met, I woke up and he was not on my mind. I felt happy and it wasn't a struggle to haul myself out of bed, which felt so good. Following my usual routine, I got out of bed, came downstairs and turned on my laptop to check my emails and talk to some friends. I had one email in my inbox. I wasn't paying much attention so I clicked on it, and what do I find? He has, for reasons unknown to me, decided to add me on Netlog, one of the few social networking sites I'm part of. He knows my reasons for deleting him and he knows if I want to pick up our friendship I will contact him, but he went ahead and added me anyway.

 

I can't help but feel angry about this. The first time I wake up and don't think about him in a long time, and he appears in my life again, ready to kick me in the teeth. Obviously he can't have known I had woken up feeling happy, but I still can't understand why he would do this again. It seems as though every time I take a step forward, he pops up and pulls me back. What does he want from me? =(

 

Oh, I think it would also be an idea to add that he has a girlfriend who he has been with for 4 or 5 months now. And he would tell me everyday that he loves her very much and that she's the only good thing in his life. I'm so confused.

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You may be confused, but you don't HAVE to be. He's only thinking of himself, it doesn't matter why he's doing this, he's doing it. He would tell you, an ex who is still trying to move on about his girlfriend he loves so much and is the only good thing in his life? That's childish behavior at it's best if I ever did see it. Again, no consideration for you. It doesn't matter what he wants, people who have a self serving and an inconsiderate nature about them will always end in heartache. You're just along for THEIR ride, no matter who you are until they want something else then buh-bye. You are starting to feel good again, ignore him and stay that way. You will be back to feeling good again in a few days.

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Actually I think you are right. It's amazing how after the initial shock, I'm actually not dwelling on it anymore. In all honesty it kind of amuses me. I'd say this is a huge improvement for me, not long ago I would have obsessed over it and thought and talked about it endlessly. My mum always says that if you're meant to be together, you'll be together and I'm a real believer of that saying. I've realised that although I'd like to be with my ex, I'm not holding onto the hope that we'll get back together anymore, and I'm now starting to enjoy being single. I'm 19 years old after all, I have my whole life ahead of me, right? =)

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Just ignore the selfish bastard, he obviously has commitment issues otherwise he wouldnt have had so many girlfriends, he wants you as a back up just incase he gets blown out by his latest piece of ass.

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Just ignore the selfish bastard, he obviously has commitment issues otherwise he wouldnt have had so many girlfriends, he wants you as a back up just incase he gets blown out by his latest piece of ass.

 

Haha, thankyou for that, it made me laugh. But you're most likely right, and he's seriously mistaken if he thinks I'll be the safety net in his relationships. I deserve better and I'm pretty sure I can get better. =)

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