Veryconfused27 Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 I was going out with this lady once a week and recently we started hanging out a lot. She slept over four nights in a row and we kiss and talk and just have a great time, but i want to be respectful and i want to do more, but i do not know how to start it. I want to be a gentlemen because i dont want to force her into doing something. Should i just go for it? I assume she likes me, just asking for advice. I want her to know i want more than just sex so im being very respectful.
Phedre Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 First off, hats for you for wanting to make sure you remain respectful towards her and show her you want more than just sex with her. I am curious to know how long y'all have been seeing each other, your ages, and if you both have had sexual partners before. I feel that this information would better allow LS posters to give you better advice. When in doubt, I say wait until she initiates. While there have been times I've wondered 'alright already is this guy gonna make a move?' I was never upset with them for not having made a move, just unsure of myself. And after a bit of that, I'd make the move and all was well from there. I've never been upset with a man for waiting. I have however been enraged and felt disrespected by a man who 'just assumed'. I'd say to keep making your lady feel special and establishing that emotional bond with her so she knows that just because you aren't riping of her pants it isn't because you aren't in to her and she will let you know when the time is right.
ashleigh422 Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 I say dont wait until she initiates it. If it were me.. it could be years.. lol I'd be patient and keep trying to move the sessions into a more heated atmosphere.. maybe a glass of wine.. some candles... she'd get the clue and then just work at it.. lol
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