Logik Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 Can someone please tell me what IMO means In my opinion
Author jessiebee Posted October 4, 2009 Author Posted October 4, 2009 Thanks, still trying to get all the abbreviations under my belt !!
Author jessiebee Posted October 7, 2009 Author Posted October 7, 2009 Why is this so hard to just not talk to him??? I mean he's acting like it's a piece of cake. How is it that he can show no emotion towards me anymore??
Logik Posted October 7, 2009 Posted October 7, 2009 I really don't think that it's a piece of cake for him. Think about this...see what his lack of contact is doing to you? Well, your lack of contact will start doing that to him. If you break it, you'll have to start all over again. It's like that game, not sure what it's called, when you have to take a metal loop through a twisted wire to get to the other end without the loop touching the wire. If you make contact, the buzzer goes off and you have to go back to the beginning to reset. It's all about patience. It's hard as hell, I know, but you have to grit your teeth, put your head down and just keep walking. It does get easier.
Author jessiebee Posted October 10, 2009 Author Posted October 10, 2009 Looks like I had to start over again. He came in the other night and started asking me stuff about work. All of a sudden he starts asking if I have plans with the kids this weekend ,I told him no. So then he was like "Well, I'm going to bring them to this birthday party" (mind you there are two brithday parties going on this weekend one is his cousin's and the other is the girl he started talking to from work,her daughter.) So I asked what party, to which he replied the girl from works daughter's. Well, at that point I lost it and said if I'm not going he can't take them around her. I will not be made to look as the mother who can't attend events like a family. I refuse to let him make me look bad and I refuse to let my kids around that girl because I don't know if she is really "that girl" yet. I told him when things get better between us if he wants to setup a playdate that's fine but as long as I'm not in the picture he can't bring my kids around her. I mean seriously she has not been on my "good side" so why the hell would he think that's okay. So then I go on to talking about if we're trying to make this work, why does he need to exclude me out of everything completely to which he said "because I don't want to be around you and I'm not going to act like everything is fine when it's not." He said we're doing the whole space thing because he wants things to get better, but he will not start going out with me and the kids as a family until he is ready. He told me that he doesn't want the worst day out of his week to be the day I don't leave right when he gets home. Can we say OUCH. I was so hurt by this and I just keep praying to myself that he is just really hurt by everything and he is just talking out of hurt, anger and resentment because I have never felt so disconnected from him. So once again I had to start all over again, but before I did I just told him no matter how long it takes for him to figure things out that I would wait for him and would be here for him when he is ready to start working on things. So now I'm questioning if that was the wrong thing to say to him? Did I put myself out there too much? Why does this **** have to be so hard? He even said it, why did it have to come to this for you to realize what you were doing wrong. I mean, he is even mad at me for the way he feels towards me right now because he said I stripped he feelings away. WTH.....
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