LisaUk Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 Hi everyone Once again so sorry I haven't been around much, so busy with school. Thought I would post an update. So first, I passed the exam, I was very shocked to discover that I the top mark and came 5th in the class. Phew! LOL Emotion wise I'm struggling, I recently started to develop feelings for someone and for a brief time I acted on those feelings but I felt it was necessary to put a stop to it, as although my feelings for this man were genuine, I felt the relationship was too much, too soon, too fast, of a rebound dynamic. Since then we have stayed in contact and continued to enjoy each others company, still flirting, but he got very upset with me and I just didn't know what to tell him. I wanted him to know that my feelings for him are genuine, but I'm just not ready for any sort of commited relationship, I was happy just hanging out and enjoying each others company. His situation is very similar to mine, he's recntly divorced and I don't want to cause him any more pain. Last night I had nighmares about my ex, I'm unwell with the freshers flu (inevitable) and I'm doing so much study I'm exhausted, now nightmares on top of it all, I'm finding it difficult to cope with all the emotions. I hope everyone else is doing well, I will try and find some time this weekend to catch up on all your threads. Lisa
anne1707 Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 Lisa Congrats on the exam As for the relationship with this new man, it does sound from what you are saying that it is too much for you at this stage. But you can also consider the positives of this - i.e. there is the possibility of developing a relationship with someone new when you are ready and that men would be interested in you - good for the ego after what has happened to you. Freshers flu??? Yeah, I had that too . Too much time in the SU bar methinks
2.50 a gallon Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 Good Morning Lisa Way to go with the exam, personally I am not surprised As to posting here, school comes first is understandable I am pleased to read you have an admirer, that doesn't surprise me either. Brains, beauty and compassion, a deadly combination. The rebound dynamic. I just found out last night that the GF and her XBF had broken it off only 2 months prior to our first date. (I had thought it had been 3 months) And he had been her first real love. Not much of chance for success there! In 10 days it will be our 14th year. Do you think I should do something special? May a dinner date and a card? You friend Gallon
Author LisaUk Posted October 3, 2009 Author Posted October 3, 2009 Thanks for the replies guys. Anne I know what you mean and I will take that from this experience, at the same time though, I am so sad that things between me and this man have deterioated to this extent. He is so angry with me and no matter how I try to explain my feelings to him, explain where I am at, he does not hear me. He seems to want to beleive that I am being difficult or fighting him for some reason, when I all I wanted to say to him was that I'm not ready, I don't want to hurt him and I can't offer him a commitment right now. He means a lot to me, he is a gentle, caring and romantic soul and after my ex I thought I would never have feelings for anyone again. In some ways he has brought me back to life and although I still have not moved on completely from my ex, he helped me to start to, the rest will take some time I think. Still what more can I do? I'm not ready, to give him what he wants would be unfair of me, when I commit I give my all and I can't do that yet, how can I when I am still thinking about my ex and about how and why he left me? Until I have moved on I can't offer anyone what they deserve.
MrMayI Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 way to go lisa! glad to see you back, even if only for an update. i thought with the girl i've been seeing that she would be upset when i broke the same kind of news to her. i felt i had to tell her that i still love my wife, and am nowhere near ready to love again. i won't get raunchy on here, but the things she told me about me and why she's not worried of "being" with me made me feel so damned good about myself. keep posting updates. you're doing the right thing with that guy. i hope he'll understand soon.
Author LisaUk Posted October 3, 2009 Author Posted October 3, 2009 way to go lisa! glad to see you back, even if only for an update. i thought with the girl i've been seeing that she would be upset when i broke the same kind of news to her. i felt i had to tell her that i still love my wife, and am nowhere near ready to love again. i won't get raunchy on here, but the things she told me about me and why she's not worried of "being" with me made me feel so damned good about myself. keep posting updates. you're doing the right thing with that guy. i hope he'll understand soon. I'm so happy to hear you are enjoying the company of your new friend, in my case though, haven't heard from him. I tried, I really did, but no matter how I tried to explain how I was feeling he just didn't understand, what more could I do? I feel sad about it though, he showed me what a true emotional connection could be, I will miss him however brief our time was.
Gunny376 Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 We're so proud of you! OoooooooooFreakingRaaaaaahhhhh! Get some! United States Marine Corps speech which mean? Freaking "A" High Five! Doing the 'Snoppy Dance" around the room! You go Girl! Your all that and then some!
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