Flavour Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 Ok my relationship has two issues, one is the distance ( a lot of distance) but we are trying to overcome it, and then the age. I am 41 and he is 60. I love him so much, he is very healthy and fit and attractive...sometimes he looks tired and I love him even more. Has anyone here experienced a relationship with an older man? What do you think about it?
sadintexas Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I recently started seeing someone 15 years older than me (I'm 39). He's only 5 years younger than my dad. He looks much younger and acts much younger and when we hang out and do things together, age difference is not apparent in any way. I was talking to a good male friend of mine about it (who is gay) whose partner is 22 years older than him. His words to me were that if it felt good and natural then don't worry about it. If it feels like I'm hanging out with someone 5 years younger than my dad then it's a problem. I personally don't think age as far as a number is as relative as compatibility, equivalent life experience, being in similar stages of life. Even some of that can be overcome depending on the people involved. Chemistry and true compatibility can be hard to find. Don't let a number stop you.
CaliGuy Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I recently started seeing someone 15 years older than me (I'm 39). He's only 5 years younger than my dad. He looks much younger and acts much younger and when we hang out and do things together, age difference is not apparent in any way. I was talking to a good male friend of mine about it (who is gay) whose partner is 22 years older than him. His words to me were that if it felt good and natural then don't worry about it. If it feels like I'm hanging out with someone 5 years younger than my dad then it's a problem. I personally don't think age as far as a number is as relative as compatibility, equivalent life experience, being in similar stages of life. Even some of that can be overcome depending on the people involved. Chemistry and true compatibility can be hard to find. Don't let a number stop you. A lot of us here have been trying to tell people that. Don't worry about the age difference. If it feels right to you, go for it. If not, well then, you know something is wrong. Cheers!
Author Flavour Posted October 3, 2009 Author Posted October 3, 2009 . Don't let a number stop you. What wonderful words.....thank you. I feel so protected by him. Even in bed ( a-ehm) he actually IS better, refined like a fine wine, has improved with age. He is gentle, attentive, kind....I feel understood and cared for. I only wish this could last for ever.
Author Flavour Posted October 3, 2009 Author Posted October 3, 2009 A lot of us here have been trying to tell people that. Don't worry about the age difference. If it feels right to you, go for it. If not, well then, you know something is wrong. Cheers! Thank you very much. It feel even TOO right and too beautiful to be true!
whichwayisup Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 Go for it! This man makes you feel good and makes you happy. That's all that counts.. Those who know you, will support you..Those who don't - well, poop on them! It's YOUR life, so listen to your heart. Age means nothing.. Well, you know what I mean, different story if you were 16-25 years old wanting to date a 60 year old.. But at 40? Age is just a number, it's everything else that counts!
Shygirl15 Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 I agree that it shouldn't matter as long as you're both happy. My boyfriend is 20 years older and honestly, we hardly notice the gap.
whiteberry Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 I always believe that age is doesn't matter for both in love people. That's why never hesitate to continue what both of you have started...
armaxx8 Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I am 34 and she is 23...we have something very special....I have been in many relationships well as know many women in my life...and have never met a person like her...she feels the same...our personalities go very good together and we dont even notice it while we are having fun...we can tell the difference in discussions sometimes about world events but that is normal due to she is fairly young and has much to learn...over all its a match made in heaven....good luck
2sure Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 I would have zero issue with it. Imagine, being the much younger woman when your over 40....love it!
nyc25 Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Flavour i believe its fine for you and your situation. My ex who cheated on me also dated an older man she was 24 and he was 50 married with kids. I don't know about that scenario but i guess nothing can stop love.
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