midawg Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 Here is the scenario. I've met someone on EH. This lady is SO cofident we are going to hit it off ... that she wants to come over to my house tonight after meeting for dinner. I had told her how a copy of "The Hangover" just happened to be in my hands ... she had mentioned wanting to see the movie. Anybody else had a blind 1st date come over to their house and hangout? Since I have not met her yet, I'm worried the "chemistry" won't be there in person .... Link to post Share on other sites
OpenGL Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 She wants to fck. Grats man, enjoy. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 She wants to fck. Grats man, enjoy. I agree. Sounds like she wants to "hit it and quit it...." RUN! Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 I'm such a woman! I read your post and, while I agree that there is a 90% chance that the main reason she wants to come over is because she wants to ****, another (paranoid) part of me is thinking: goodness! protect yourself! Who knows why this lady wants to come over??? Maybe she'll steal your copy of the Hangover (great movie btw). So I can only give you the advice that I've been given as a woman: always meet a person in a public place first, and then decide if you want them to come over. So why not suggest you two have dinner somewhere in town first, see how things go, and if all works out, well bring her back home for a, hmm, movie. Link to post Share on other sites
justforfun Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 If you're sure that's what she wants then run towards her not away! ;)I agree. Sounds like she wants to "hit it and quit it...." RUN! Seriously though. She sounds like a bunny boiler! This woman is crazy. Please do not take her home and do not let her know where you live. :bunny: She's already making you feel uncomfortable before you have even met. That's not a good sign for an internet date. It's usually the total opposite! Link to post Share on other sites
tkgirl Posted October 3, 2009 Share Posted October 3, 2009 If you're sure that's what she wants then run towards her not away! ;) Seriously though. She sounds like a bunny boiler! This woman is crazy. Please do not take her home and do not let her know where you live. :bunny: She's already making you feel uncomfortable before you have even met. That's not a good sign for an internet date. It's usually the total opposite! I don't know if she's crazy but she does sound a little desperate.. tread lightly! see if there's chemistry and if not, fake a headache or something... us women do it all the time! Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted October 3, 2009 Share Posted October 3, 2009 I can't imagine a woman being this dumb. She has no idea who you are or anything about you but she's willing to go to your house. Stooo-pid. In your case, if you don't like her, you're stuck. I think this is a really dumb idea all the way around. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted October 3, 2009 Share Posted October 3, 2009 Here is the scenario. I've met someone on EH. This lady is SO cofident we are going to hit it off ... that she wants to come over to my house tonight after meeting for dinner. I had told her how a copy of "The Hangover" just happened to be in my hands ... she had mentioned wanting to see the movie. Anybody else had a blind 1st date come over to their house and hangout? Since I have not met her yet, I'm worried the "chemistry" won't be there in person .... Well this is how things went when I first met my boyfriend in person. I was bored at home and couldn't go back to sleep around 3 in the morning. He was up and bored (he works nights) so I told him to come over to hang out. Did I want sex with him? No, but I wanted to hang out with him because after talking for about 5 months I knew that there was a 90% chance we'd get along in person. So yeah she may want sex, or she may just want to spend more time with you because she's confident that your chemistry will be great. Luckily you'll be able to gauge whether she's right or not over dinner before deciding whether to let her come over. Link to post Share on other sites
ashleigh422 Posted October 4, 2009 Share Posted October 4, 2009 i can't imagine a woman being this dumb. She has no idea who you are or anything about you but she's willing to go to your house. Stooo-pid. In your case, if you don't like her, you're stuck. I think this is a really dumb idea all the way around. i agree.. Stooo-pid.. It must be a man... Link to post Share on other sites
justforfun Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Well this is how things went when I first met my boyfriend in person. I was bored at home and couldn't go back to sleep around 3 in the morning. He was up and bored (he works nights) so I told him to come over to hang out. Did I want sex with him? No, but I wanted to hang out with him because after talking for about 5 months I knew that there was a 90% chance we'd get along in person. So yeah she may want sex, or she may just want to spend more time with you because she's confident that your chemistry will be great. Luckily you'll be able to gauge whether she's right or not over dinner before deciding whether to let her come over. You invited a stranger into your home at 3am in the morning? That's very risky. Glad it worked out for you but I wouldn't recommend it. And none of the sites do either. Link to post Share on other sites
justforfun Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 What happened then? Here is the scenario. I've met someone on EH. This lady is SO cofident we are going to hit it off ... that she wants to come over to my house tonight after meeting for dinner. I had told her how a copy of "The Hangover" just happened to be in my hands ... she had mentioned wanting to see the movie. Anybody else had a blind 1st date come over to their house and hangout? Since I have not met her yet, I'm worried the "chemistry" won't be there in person .... Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 You invited a stranger into your home at 3am in the morning? That's very risky. Glad it worked out for you but I wouldn't recommend it. And none of the sites do either. Yeah it was risky and pretty dumb but it did work out luckily. My point is though that maybe she's like me and not thinking too clearly (as I obviously wasn't at the time). Maybe she's not a crazy but just really excited about meeting him, which could be the case. Although more than likely it's good to assume most people you meet online are a bit crazy until proven otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
justforfun Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Seems a bit different too because you invited him over. She's inviting herself into his home. I'm telling ya the bunny is gonna get it! Yeah it was risky and pretty dumb but it did work out luckily. My point is though that maybe she's like me and not thinking too clearly (as I obviously wasn't at the time). Maybe she's not a crazy but just really excited about meeting him, which could be the case. Although more than likely it's good to assume most people you meet online are a bit crazy until proven otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Seems a bit different too because you invited him over. She's inviting herself into his home. I'm telling ya the bunny is gonna get it! Yeah that is kinda weird. I would never invite myself over to someone's house because 1) I'm not familiar with the neighbourhood, house layout, etc. and 2) at my house I had people around that I could rely on to help me out if he did turn out to be a crazy. Plus inviting yourself over to someone's house is kind of rude in my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author midawg Posted October 5, 2009 Author Share Posted October 5, 2009 A update for those who are interested. The girl comes over on Friday. We makeout for a little bit, nothing to heavy (watch a movie). As the date ends Tells me she had a great time, etc. Guess what ... poof ... do not hear from her for two days. I get a e-mail today. Telling me I was to forward (see the irony in this!), and she had just run into another guy who she had broken up with two weeks ago. After realizing he was such a nice guy, she decided to give him a 2nd chance ... and had him hang out with her family on Sunday (our date was Friday). This cracks me up. The girl complained about all of these losers she dated ... now I know who the real loser is! Link to post Share on other sites
OpenGL Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 LOL you had a girl come over to your house and you didnt fck her? Whats wrong with you? She probably ditched you because you didn't try to fck her. Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 A update for those who are interested. The girl comes over on Friday. We makeout for a little bit, nothing to heavy (watch a movie). As the date ends Tells me she had a great time, etc. Guess what ... poof ... do not hear from her for two days. I get a e-mail today. Telling me I was to forward (see the irony in this!), and she had just run into another guy who she had broken up with two weeks ago. After realizing he was such a nice guy, she decided to give him a 2nd chance ... and had him hang out with her family on Sunday (our date was Friday). This cracks me up. The girl complained about all of these losers she dated ... now I know who the real loser is! Yep, she sounds like she's got a screw loose. Any girl who invites herself to a guy's place when she doesn't even know him has some issues. Aside from it just being plain bad manners to invite yourself anywhere, it's really dumb. She didn't need to include all the other details either. Sounds like you pissed her off and she was getting back at you. I do have to wonder, though, why you leave it up to the girl to contact you after a date - assuming that's what you meant when you said that you didn't hear from her for two days? Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 LOL you had a girl come over to your house and you didnt fck her? Whats wrong with you? She probably ditched you because you didn't try to fck her. Are you serious??? Wow, and I thought women were getting smarter - not dumber. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenGL Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 A update for those who are interested. The girl comes over on Friday. We makeout for a little bit, nothing to heavy (watch a movie). As the date ends Tells me she had a great time, etc. Guess what ... poof ... do not hear from her for two days. I get a e-mail today. Telling me I was to forward (see the irony in this!), and she had just run into another guy who she had broken up with two weeks ago. After realizing he was such a nice guy, she decided to give him a 2nd chance ... and had him hang out with her family on Sunday (our date was Friday). This cracks me up. The girl complained about all of these losers she dated ... now I know who the real loser is! Are you serious??? Wow, and I thought women were getting smarter - not dumber. Uh, no. I give the real truth on this forum not the female double-speak that happens here on a daily basis. Link to post Share on other sites
justforfun Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 A update for those who are interested. The girl comes over on Friday. We makeout for a little bit, nothing to heavy (watch a movie). As the date ends Tells me she had a great time, etc. Guess what ... poof ... do not hear from her for two days. I get a e-mail today. Telling me I was to forward (see the irony in this!), and she had just run into another guy who she had broken up with two weeks ago. After realizing he was such a nice guy, she decided to give him a 2nd chance ... and had him hang out with her family on Sunday (our date was Friday). This cracks me up. The girl complained about all of these losers she dated ... now I know who the real loser is! Yup!!! :bunny::bunny::bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Author midawg Posted October 5, 2009 Author Share Posted October 5, 2009 First - I did try to make a few moves. Apparently her commentary was I was to "forward/strong" ... you get the idea. Believe me, I was not shy. Second - Anyone who invites themselves over on a 1st date should expect no less, although she claimed to be to embarassed to ask me to slow down Third - Anybody who decides on Wednesday that a guy is a loser and by Sunday is introducing him to her family and friends is either a complete bimbo or a big loser herself. Take your pick Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Better to find out now then posting on the breaks and breaking up forum two months from now. But at least she was being honest. She was looking for a quick fix, you don't need someone like that. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenGL Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 First - I did try to make a few moves. Apparently her commentary was I was to "forward/strong" ... you get the idea. Believe me, I was not shy. Second - Anyone who invites themselves over on a 1st date should expect no less, although she claimed to be to embarassed to ask me to slow down Third - Anybody who decides on Wednesday that a guy is a loser and by Sunday is introducing him to her family and friends is either a complete bimbo or a big loser herself. Take your pick Exactly how did it go down? Did you try to make a grab for her ass/tits and she tell you to stop? Did she tell you that you were being to forward during or afterwards? Trust me on this, women don't come to someones place without the intention or willingness to fck. If their panties aren't off by the end of the night they will leave disappointed and blame you for not being man enough to fck her. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 First - I did try to make a few moves. Apparently her commentary was I was to "forward/strong" ... you get the idea. Believe me, I was not shy. What exactly were a few moves, and how forceful were they? I agree that a woman should be smarter about her personal safety, but not all women see hanging out to watch a movie as being an invitation. Some women truly are naive on some issues, and some women truly believe that the chemistry you were already feeling was evidence of her safety (you SEEMED like a nice guy) and that being there would be a great way to get to know each other without a lot of background noise. But what is saddest to me is the immediate reaction by some posters that that the woman was coming over to get f*cked and the chagrin that the OP didn't manage to tap that strange. And when the implication was that the OP should have tried harder to get paid, then he has to come back with assertions of his "manliness"?? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Trust me on this, women don't come to someones place without the intention or willingness to fck. If their panties aren't off by the end of the night they will leave disappointed and blame you for not being man enough to fck her. Oh my God. You can't possibly be in a relationship, because with an attitude like that, no woman would date you. Link to post Share on other sites
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