rp123 Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I really don't know how I've achieved 20 days of NC. But somehow I've done it. The pain has been incredible. the First 10 days were literally unbearable. Now, each day is just a little easier than the last. But still the pain is intense, and some moment are filled with acute pain. Will I hang on......? I really don't know. I have learnt so much about myself though.. There has been no contact whatsoever. However, on day 14 of NC, I received a card that just said 'Thank you' Thats it ONE word! it was torture..... Help me.
ace2666 Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I'm in 24 days of NC. Hang in there. It's hard but it's worth it.
Author rp123 Posted October 2, 2009 Author Posted October 2, 2009 I'm in 24 days of NC. Hang in there. It's hard but it's worth it. Well Ace, lets see whos the first to break our NC! God its tough....
fabulous_chk Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 Good job!!! I'm on day 6 of NC and guess how long ago was the break-up? Almost 7 months ago lol! The NC buddies I've had back in March have stopped posting, and here I am still in the coping forum. Let me be an example of a bad NC-er lol! If only I had maintained strict NC I would not still be here. So, keep going, keep marching, this is a fight you have to win. I'm rooting for you, and will make you my inspiration! I'm daring myself to last a month. I think I could do it this time. =)
adamt Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I really don't know how I've achieved 20 days of NC. But somehow I've done it. The pain has been incredible. the First 10 days were literally unbearable. Now, each day is just a little easier than the last. But still the pain is intense, and some moment are filled with acute pain. Will I hang on......? I really don't know. I have learnt so much about myself though.. There has been no contact whatsoever. However, on day 14 of NC, I received a card that just said 'Thank you' Thats it ONE word! it was torture..... Help me. Just hang in there it will get better, i am on 4 months of NC and it is a lot easier but i do still get moments where i miss my ex. but feeling ready to date someone new now. I think you learnt to put the thoughts and emotions in the back of your mind and keep them there. keep yourself as busy as you can.
quarterlifecrisis Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 Day 21 for me. First 10 days were unbearable, next 10 were a lot better. Only 1 day so far in this last batch but I'm feeling great. Part of what's helped me is putting a quota on the number of people or times per day I can talk about it. In the first week, I was running on and on to a few close friends every hour or so. Then I decided, I'm only going to talk to 1 person 1 time a day to vent. Now, I'm trying to go full days without mentioning how hurt/sad I am. I find that the less you talk about it (after you've gotten it all out in the beginning), the less you think about it as well. And then you get better...
Confused_Chump Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 My first attempt at NC lasted around 10 days and that was the most excruciating emotional pain I've ever felt. It was something that was just unbearable because there wasn't anything that I can do to relieve it. I finally gave in and broke NC hoping I can work things out and be friends instead. But that was just as bad so I finally grew tired of feeling crappy and decided to seriously move on and implement NC again. I think I am sitting at a little over 2 months now with just 2 short conversations in the middle strictly for "business" purposes. I find that NC is a lot easier when you've accepted reality and you're willing to finally move on and start healing. I also try not to count the days anymore because I feel there really isn't a need for it. Good job and hang in there! Better days lay ahead for all of us =).
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