adamt Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 All can say was that i was there 4 months ago. Felt my world was upside down,couldnt eat or sleep, felt lost, all my future plans in pieces, couldnt focus at work, kept crying, was in a daze. The after a month of NC i decided that i had to move on. I got hobbies,read books, caught up with old friends,joined a gym, ate healthy and so on. dont spend too much time sat at home alone. focus on yourself. be selfish and put yourself first. as long as you do this and want to move on then you will begin to improve. but you have to stick at it and be patient
angelface78 Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 5 years with my ex and he has a new girl in 3 months. Babyribs we are in the same place. I also feel like no time has passed. It hurts so much. Still get anxiety attacks even after 3 months...it doesnt go away!! Wish i could just sleep forever and never wake up sometimes. My heart is beating like crazy as i write this. Just heart palpitations..just a minor anxiety attack...no biggie...i am starting to get used to these...THATS SAD!!
wondering_girl Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 hi babyribs, i'm sorry WE'RE ALL going through this - this hurts i was with my ex-bf for four years too,and you know he never even said goodbye - just like magnolia said i thought he was going to call but it's been a month and a week i really need to accept that HE'S GONE. i feel your PAIN. i feel unwanted, rejected, i hope it gets better for us soon. just like angelface i had anxiety attacks too - my heart beats really fast.
icyness Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 I don't really have anything that useful to add except my biggest warmest hugs to you all. I honestly never knew being left/breaking up hurt this bad until it happened to me; the feelings being described are dead on and wow is it painful. It hurts like hell, but we'll make it...somehow. xo
You'reasian Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 It hurts so damn much. i cant even write. Go out for some baby-back ribs at your nearest chillis.
Mixitup123 Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 "I'm sure before this relationship you didn't feel this way cause you weren't hurt" I like that RunningOnFaith, it is true. We all feel so down about ourselves because we are hurting..we never felt like this before the break-up (actually I was quite proud of myself for what I was doing and giving up for my bf). Before we got together I'd just finished uni, had all these ideas and ambition, and you're meant to grow with your partner and blossom even more..like i said before, we stood still, we had nothing together, after 4 yrs nothing. So I know, had I stayed with him I would have been the loser then. Epecially because I realised he didn't love me or even care about me. I just wish I had owned up to it before now, 2 years ago was when I actually did realise, but just kept fooling myself. BabyRibs you left him for a reason....if you were happy and everything was going well..you wouldn't have left..we don't do this for our health..we don't want to feel this way or uproot everything in our lives after so long..we don't want to leave the person we love, but i think we finally realise they weren't the person we thought they were .. and we deserve to be cared for and respected..and you wouldn't be respecting yourself if you hadn't listened to your instinct.
RunningOnFaith Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 i'm getting drunk BabyRibs!!! I Got Drunk Tonight to.....LOL....even through that, I still felt the pain...Hey listen to "Running On Faith" by Erick Clapton, The Unplugged version, the song is beautiful and those are my feelings hence my name!!! Good night. (As i take my sleep aide) Im so weird but i promise im not supposed to be like this:(
Author Babyribs Posted October 3, 2009 Author Posted October 3, 2009 Hi...so i got really drunk last night and now i am back to reality...the pain still there but i do feel a little better...i think is because i cross a line last night that maybe i needed to cross and that was getting really drunk and sleeping with a friend...i think i needed some loving because today i feel ok about what happened last night...how are you? i am gonna listen to that song right now.
RunningOnFaith Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 I'm glad you were feeling ok, I hope u still are. You know the same kinda thing happened to me that night to. I didn't hook up with anyone, but I started off by going to see my favorite baseball team (where the drinks began) then I met up with old friends that I hadn't seen a long time, some even yrs. and the drinks continued, but it was good i laughed I talked the pain never left but I at times forgot it was there. You know there's a void in me that nobody can fill, but I feel like my ex has giving me no other choice. That day he texted me and asked if I wanted to hang out, my heart was pumping, i was so lost, but I had plans and although again all the literature I read say I can't give in, at that moment it wasn't about showing him I'm ok cause I'm not, but more than that he knows I'm not, he knows me like a book. The thing was my friend and I were going to a game that I know he would've love to be at, but see my friend is always my friend, she's always there to let me talk and lately cry to, and it wasn't like I would feel guilty if I had told her the truth if I had decided to see him, but I didn't want to. I thought NO she's not going to take the place of him, you're gonna go to the stadium (where he and I have gone soooooooo many times) with a different feeling, but it felt just as good cause I knew this person wanted me there, she knew she could have a good time with me, and that felt good. There wasn't any worry or doubt or thoughts of "whats gonna happen" it was just a good time. And I talked about him I thought about him maybe the alcohol brought that out even more but the one thing i didn't have was not knowing what he really felt, why was he reallly there, was it cause he wanted to see the game and he would have a great time with anyone? or cause he wanted to share that with me. For ONCE I tried to stay positive, and yest it helped that my friend reminded me of why im so great and he's not (she's not mean) she just reminds me that he was the lucky one, and even if it's not true. When I didn't see him when I told him "SORRY i HAVE PLANS" just like that, no saying this or that, that he wanted to break up, he didn't respond and I was so scared, but I just kept saying "you know what you know" and those horrible things that were said to me just a few days ago aren't gone, and who knows maybe they will be by today maybe I'll forget them and go see him, I don't know but the way I feel right now I don't put NOTHING passed me, I have to remind myself, I'll be right back here unless i don't make changes in myself. Those changes can't be just expecting him to break up with me when he wants or trying to convince myself that I know he will leave again, so it won't hurt so bad. NO it's not true I gotta tell myself that it's gonna hurt even more cause it does, its like not only is he letting me down, but Ive let myself down and that one is so hard.
Author Babyribs Posted October 4, 2009 Author Posted October 4, 2009 RunningOnFaith dont give me too quicklyn...be strong...its for your own mental health...i know it hurts..i am hurting too but if you just give in because he called you are not giving yourself the value you really are worth. private message me. i tried to send you one but it didnt work.
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 the food doesnt taste the same i feel i could die of a broken heart. i am in love with someone who is not in love with me we were together for 3 yrs she was my world my everything i feel empty with her in my life her smile her touch it is so hard to let go.....i gotta be strong
LifesHype Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 I'm in the same situation. The girl that I was "with" (if that's what it was) was someone who I just instantly fell in love with. But she's the type that claims she doesn't have time for a boyfriend because of work and school and she feels like there's nothing wrong with flirting with other guys. It's just tough to realize that you do things for people you love that no one else has ever done for them, and they throw you to the side and run after people who don't truly care about them. Our fallout basically happened last night when I went to visit her at work, and all of today I've been trying to keep my mind off of her because I've realized that I don't want to be in a relationship with a person that will continue to pursue other guys as well. It just hurts though. I still care for her and everything but it's tough trying to let go.
RunningOnFaith Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 I reconnected with my ex this weekend, we didn't hook up, but we talked. Why do i do this to MYSELF!? I only have myself to blame, I swear if I could turn it off I would, but I can't forget him!! Why couldn't the clinic on Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind be real?? I know I would sign up for the procedure, it hurts to think that I would erase him, but this pain that i feel is even worse.
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