RunningOnFaith Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Ok, so my Boyfriend and I just broke up 2 days ago after being together for 7 yrs. My heart hurts, i feel lost, and while we did have a break up about 3 yrs for about 8 mos. this feels SO DIFFERENT! We went through that horrible time, we got back together after ALOT OF DRAMA, and in all honesty the things that went on during that time on his part were enough for me to never talk to him again. Yet that wasn't in my heart, I loved him still, I know who he is. So we got back together it's been 3 1/2 yrs and now we're back here again. This is the man that i want/wanted to marry be the father to my kids and all that good stuff. I love him he's my heart. Ok, but here's my question. Is it normal to be driven by the nagging questions of "what if he finds someone and falls in love and is so good to them?" "What if he forgets me?" "What if all the negative times, or situations is what he takes away from our relationship and remembers?". This relationship was a very serious one, he was my family, my best friend. I'm so lost and sad, but I'm dealing with heartbreak and those horrible questions and it makes me question my own heart. But worse of all what if the answer to one or all of those questions is YES!!! What does that say about me??? I'm sorry if I sound like a loser or a psycho.
JaggedRoad Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 I'm fairly sure that it's normal for anyone going through a break-up. You're heartbroken; what more can I say?
hoping2heal Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Ok, so my Boyfriend and I just broke up 2 days ago after being together for 7 yrs. My heart hurts, i feel lost, and while we did have a break up about 3 yrs for about 8 mos. this feels SO DIFFERENT! We went through that horrible time, we got back together after ALOT OF DRAMA, and in all honesty the things that went on during that time on his part were enough for me to never talk to him again. Yet that wasn't in my heart, I loved him still, I know who he is. So we got back together it's been 3 1/2 yrs and now we're back here again. This is the man that i want/wanted to marry be the father to my kids and all that good stuff. I love him he's my heart. Ok, but here's my question. Is it normal to be driven by the nagging questions of "what if he finds someone and falls in love and is so good to them?" "What if he forgets me?" "What if all the negative times, or situations is what he takes away from our relationship and remembers?". This relationship was a very serious one, he was my family, my best friend. I'm so lost and sad, but I'm dealing with heartbreak and those horrible questions and it makes me question my own heart. But worse of all what if the answer to one or all of those questions is YES!!! What does that say about me??? I'm sorry if I sound like a loser or a psycho. I think for coming fresh out of a 7 year relationship your thoughts are very normal. I'm sorry for the pain you're going through and that this happened to you.
boogieboy Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Everyone thinks that when they break up. Its normal.
colin100 Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 Yeah I agree with the previous replies, all normal, we've all been there or are in the same place as you now. Good luck going forward!
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