cognac Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I don't understand your need to judge me and and implying I have an inferior complex and insane for simply contributing to the thread and sticking to the topic and answering the 3 questions asked... that is what my type is and there is nothing wrong with that...i know what I like and what i want...and yes blue eyes are it for me...can't get enough of them...they make me melt...nothing wrong with that...and height well to me its sexy and a turn on...and that's ok too because its about me and my preferences you don't have to agree w me...just show a lil respect... I don't know, it was just an observation. Short women who only date guys atleast a foot taller, have an inferiority complex. Non-white women who only date not only white guys, but the fairest, most blonde and blue eyed they can find, are the same. The fact that you mention details about yourself, and then say you seek the total opposite of what you are as a breeding partner, means that you have some serious self-image problems.
Trialbyfire Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I don't know, it was just an observation. Short women who only date guys atleast a foot taller, have an inferiority complex. Non-white women who only date not only white guys, but the fairest, most blonde and blue eyed they can find, are the same. The fact that you mention details about yourself, and then say you seek the total opposite of what you are as a breeding partner, means that you have some serious self-image problems.Actually...many women's types are based on their foundational years. If they had a great relationship with their fathers, they tend to gravitate towards men who look like their fathers. Same goes for any other positive male figure who was dominant in their lives.
Awesome Username Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 Height doesn't matter to me. Just thought I'd throw that in there.
aerogurl87 Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 some don't have types or claim not too but I'm sure deep down they have their preferences too...there are also people that have had a very difficult time getting the guy they want and settle because they feel they are not capable of it... I have also noticed and this is strictly based on my girls but in my circle I have noticed that those w a lower sex drive tend to not have much of a type. I am a highly sexual person and I need to be physically attracted to it all...it adds to my fun in bed and that passion. Well I have a "type" that I find irresistable at first glance and my boyfriend is nowhere near that, but I don't think I'm settling. Sure he's white with dark brown hair, but he's barely taller than me (something I had to get used to I must admit). So I don't think a person has to necessarily be settling to date someone that wouldn't necessarily be their type. It could be that that person has qualities that outshine their physical attributes and makes them even more appealing than the average hottie walking down the street. Just my two cents.
aerogurl87 Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I do prefer my own race (as I feel that yes, whites are the most beautiful) for a variety of cultural, etc reasons So if you met a very beautiful woman of another race who was like a goddess on earth, both on the inside and outside, would you choose to date a b**chy, psycho white girl who was equally beautiful over the other woman? Just curious here.
splintered thing Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 No, none that I can think of. None of the people I've been involved with, nor those I've found most attractive but haven't been involved with, have fit a particular physical type or looked like each other. Tall, short, skinny, chunky, light, dark, etc. They've all had eyes of some type, though. And they've been bipedal mammals, too, so it's not like I don't have *any* physical preferences. I don't usually get attracted to anybody immediately; usually it takes a while before I notice that they're really attractive. Maybe that has something to do with the lack of a physical "type."
thegoodlife Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I have a type that I find most physically attractive, but I've never dated anyone fitting that type.
Leia Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 Thinking back, I don't have any particular type. I dated all sorts of men : tall, short, chubby, slender, fair and tan. But they all have dark hair ... except two which were blonde.
looking4 green grass Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 The killer combo for me is dark/almost black hair and super blue eyes.
eiithan Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I don't know, it was just an observation. Short women who only date guys atleast a foot taller, have an inferiority complex. Non-white women who only date not only white guys, but the fairest, most blonde and blue eyed they can find, are the same. cognac, if I were you, I would be very careful in addressing race and inferiority complex in the same sentence. As a non-white woman I don't see myself what is the major attraction of blonde/blue eyed white men (I just don't feel a thing about them; I don't mean to discriminate!), and I would not disagree that dating a certain group exclusively as a rule is close-minded and some other issues are likely involved, but defining cases in a clinical and politically charged language such as "they have an inferiority complex" oversimplifies complicated dynamics in interracial relationship/dating. None of us can escape from the scrutiny and the criticism, but sometimes people just cannot help themselves over whom they find attractive.
xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I do have a type. And that type is always more cute than handsome. What does more cute than handsome mean? I'm handsome but I look like i'm 16 but I am 22 so does that make me cute? Do I qualify 4 u?
Pyro Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 So I'm curious: 1. How many of you have a "type" -based SOLELY on physical appearance, NOT personality traits? 2. What is your type? 3. Why do you think some people have "types" and some people don't? For example, anyone looking at pictures of every bf I've ever had would never be able to make this kind of statement about me and having a type. 1. No 2. Cute and sexy. 3. They want people to approve. I bet many insecure guys go for the stereotypical model type just for approval and validation.
cognac Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 So if you met a very beautiful woman of another race who was like a goddess on earth, both on the inside and outside, would you choose to date a b**chy, psycho white girl who was equally beautiful over the other woman? Just curious here. To be honest I have never been truly attracted to women of another race, ever in my life. I don't understand how anyone of any other race can feel differently unless they think their own people (and hence themselves) are inferior or ugly. I believe I have a birthrate to marry someone of my own race. cognac, if I were you, I would be very careful in addressing race and inferiority complex in the same sentence. As a non-white woman I don't see myself what is the major attraction of blonde/blue eyed white men (I just don't feel a thing about them; I don't mean to discriminate!), and I would not disagree that dating a certain group exclusively as a rule is close-minded and some other issues are likely involved, but defining cases in a clinical and politically charged language such as "they have an inferiority complex" oversimplifies complicated dynamics in interracial relationship/dating.[/Quote] No, I just think people are afraid to talk about the elephant in the living room. If you are an Asian, or other non-white girl, and are only attracted to blonde haired blue eyed guys who are 7 feet tall, you probably have some deep issue you need to resolve. What's oversimplified is trying to explain it away by saying "it's just what I'm attracted to, I can't help it!", that's no excuse. How much do you bet if a short guy only wanted to date tall girls, everyone would say he's trying to compensate for his height? So why aren't women held up to the same standards, when they are far more prejudice. None of us can escape from the scrutiny and the criticism, but sometimes people just cannot help themselves over whom they find attractive.[/Quote] What did people like this do before the advent of globalism? Die single? It shows you that it's not natural to feel that way and you probably have some racial self-hatred if you do. Not saying you can't love someone of a different race, but if you only want to date a race completely different from yours and reject everyone else, you have a problem.
fatamus Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 5"6 to 5"8 slim, long legs with round ass and nice feet. boobs don't matter much, faces are too different to describe. Either dark complexion jet black hair, exotic italian/brazilian type or blond hair fair skin type, i've been flip flopping. Its weird because my natural hair color is dark brown but i spend so much time in the sun during the summer is gets bleached to sandy dirty blond, so my current girl dyied it very dark brown almost black one night, and we match now. Everyone says we look perfect together, go figure.
eiithan Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 No, I just think people are afraid to talk about the elephant in the living room. If you are an Asian, or other non-white girl, and are only attracted to blonde haired blue eyed guys who are 7 feet tall, you probably have some deep issue you need to resolve. What's oversimplified is trying to explain it away by saying "it's just what I'm attracted to, I can't help it!", that's no excuse. How much do you bet if a short guy only wanted to date tall girls, everyone would say he's trying to compensate for his height? So why aren't women held up to the same standards, when they are far more prejudice. What did people like this do before the advent of globalism? Die single? It shows you that it's not natural to feel that way and you probably have some racial self-hatred if you do. Not saying you can't love someone of a different race, but if you only want to date a race completely different from yours and reject everyone else, you have a problem. Any wo/men who are exclusively looking for a specific type of physical requirements and who further go to reject everyone else are most likely to have deeper psychological issues. It is certainly extreme and unhealthy, and I am not disagreeing with you on that remark. However, in the previous post what I wanted to point out is that whatever reasons that made a person to have such an imbalanced opinion about their potential partners cannot be singularly "because they have an inferiority issue." That is the dangerous oversimplification part I am concerned. To me it sounds like unfair generalisations such as "he is a White guy with an Asian girlfriend, he must have Asian fetish," "American women are too masclinised nowadays, they are not datable." There are people who fit perfectly into your examples of inferiority/objectification of a certain ethnic group/etc category. However you cannot brand everyone because of those existing stereotypes. That is why I said I'd be careful if I were you. People are more complicated than that. To be honest I have never been truly attracted to women of another race, ever in my life. I don't understand how anyone of any other race can feel differently unless they think their own people (and hence themselves) are inferior or ugly. I believe I have a birthrate to marry someone of my own race. People have many different reasons to develop an inclination towards persons of different ethnic backgrounds. Sometimes people get burnt in past relationships and choose to seek someone who is completely different. Sometimes people open up as they grow. Sometimes it just happens. I am fairly sure there are a large number of people from any ethnic background who exclusively dated within his/her own ethnic group in their youth and later ventured outside and met someone who is culturally different. You are correct that "because I just cannot help myself" is a poor excuse. As I mentioned before, no matter what the reason is, the participants in interracial dating/relationship/marriage will always be subjected to its critics. It is a tough business. Crossing over different cultural zones and seeking acceptance/understanding are daunting, if not frightening. And all I want to say is, give them a moment of consideration. It is not always because people feel that their own people is "inferior or ugly." There is a huge area of ambivalence, perhaps similar to the discontents and conflicting psyche of the post-WW2 emigre experience.
gypsy_nicky Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 (edited) So what your saying is you should only date your own 'race' because that's how you feel about it and go about it?? Also what your implying is no one should cross 'racial' lines which would cause inbreeding from 'inferior races' which you cover up with 'finding your own race attractive', hence sticking with them?? For one, race isn't biological (which you also imply) but a social construct. Your basing something entirely on physical attributes which is mainly skin color. This thread wasn't even about race, yet you start bringing up the racial cards. Or maybe it is a good thing you brought it up so the people here wouldn't be so covert about it. Edited October 2, 2009 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
gypsy_nicky Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 back to the topic, I never really had a preference or a physical 'type'. More on personality. TBF, is that you in your avatar? Your gorgeous.
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 cognac, your a f*kn nazi id*ot. Lol that sounded mature. If someone makes an ignorant comment, you follow it up with an even more ignorant one? Let's not have another innocent thread degenerate into bull****. To answer the OP's question: 1) I wouldn't say I have a specific type I HAVE to date. But there are exes that I find more attractive than other girls I've dated. And with whom I tended to have a more electric chemistry. 2) For instance, exes of mine that I found the most desireable shared the traits of light brown hair, light hazel or green eyes, and nice skin (clear, smooth, light but not pale). Height close to mine (I'm 5'11" so about 2-3 inches shorter), and a relatively in shape build. I'm not much of a boob man, I prefer a nice butt and thighs (child bearing). 3) I think everyone has a type, some maybe just haven't figured out the specifics. Freudian(sp?) theory says that women like guys that resemble their father (unless he was abusive), and men like girls that resemble their mother. Can't say I agree with this though. I actually think it has more to do with what kind of girls/boys you liked when you were very young- like elementary school young. Sure tastes evolove, but I think whatever you find attractive first, early in life, is what sticks to you. Your first crush, hand holder, note passer... you know. Come to think of it, the girls I chased around on the playground were probably the same kind of girls I chase today, just all grown up.
MSUE Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I don't know, it was just an observation. Short women who only date guys atleast a foot taller, have an inferiority complex. Non-white women who only date not only white guys, but the fairest, most blonde and blue eyed they can find, are the same. The fact that you mention details about yourself, and then say you seek the total opposite of what you are as a breeding partner, means that you have some serious self-image problems. you r turning this into a bit of a personal attack...you don't know me at all...I'm not asking you to agree w the fact that I have my "type" and my preferences but to accuse me of inferiority and self image issues is wrong in fact I'm more than pleased with my looks...please I'm asking for the respect I deserve to imply that I have an inferiority complex due to my race? do you even know my background? do you know me at all? no you have no clue...you are very out of line...very disrespectful...and lack intellectual knowledge on that field...you are crossing a line and its unacceptable what is it so difficult to understand that a woman...that I can have a type and preferences on a partner because plain and simple because that happens to be what I'm attracted to and what turns me on? in a senses clearly you have your own type...you only date white women...I'm I being disrespectful to you? or implying anything about your persona based on that? no because it would be not only childish but very ignorant thing for me to do...I happen to have the ability to respect others choices in life and that includes dating type
phineas Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I don't usually get attracted to anybody immediately; usually it takes a while before I notice that they're really attractive. Maybe that has something to do with the lack of a physical "type." This is basically me also. I don't have a type. I can see a woman is attractive, but time has shown me that pretty just isn't enough anymore. It takes finding out who they are. If I like them as a person then I will become really attracted to them.
gopher Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 Rachael Ray type...dark hair, dark eyes, not stick thin....bubbly personality....great kisser, and smart....hmmmm, that fits my current g/f perfectly.
New Again Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 None of my bfs look especially like each other, but I definitely tend to go for guys who have dark hair (black or almost black) and light eyes (usually hazel or green); athletic build, between 5'7" and 5'10". My dad has black hair, green eyes, athletic build, but he's over 6ft tall. I also really respect him and think he's pretty fantastic. So maybe there's something to that. I've dated all kinds of guys (weight, heigh and looks-wise), but all of my longer-term relationships were with that physical type.
Author Roxanna Posted October 2, 2009 Author Posted October 2, 2009 When my bf and I first started dating, there was almost some drama, because his most recent ex had also started dating someone else; she posted a photo of her and her new bf on FB or something like that, and a bunch of their mutual friends seriously thought that it was my bf and that they had gotten back together; that's how much they looked alike. My bf has dated all kinds of girls, but he definitely tends to gravitate toward a certain type. None of us look alike exactly, but he likes petite brunettes with dark eyes, who look a little exotic in some way. I don't look at all exotic, but I fit the rest of the trend.
MSUE Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 My bf has dated all kinds of girls, but he definitely tends to gravitate toward a certain type. None of us look alike exactly, but he likes petite brunettes with dark eyes, who look a little exotic in some way. I don't look at all exotic, but I fit the rest of the trend. that's so funny...my BF is exactly the same way...I do look a bit exotic though...We were at a funeral once and his 2 ex's happened to be there as well and as odd as it was we were introduced since we were all friends with the deceased...we all look alike except I'm more busty...like much more lol
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