hardlover Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 I dated a girl. The first 2 month she was fun. It really connected, i would talk and joke, and she would respond with interest, and ask me things and so on. It was intense. However, afterwards, she was less interested in what i had to say, less happy what i was about to say, laughed less and so on. So to have anything to say to each other, i would have to argue,ask her what she things about us, or talk about some subject i was interest on. Now im just wondering: 1 Is this a sign that her attraction and interest in me diminished? 2 Is it also a sign that we really didnt connect as friends, and that our relationship was mostly based on attraction and feelings for each other(because we loved each other. Because really, we never ever connected as friends,but still i had great moments with her where we laughed, joked and cuddling, but still no deeper friendship, and really had a chemistry on that level, great intimacy in feelings for each other,but no friendship..so we were never meant to be?
prettybaby Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Wait, how long have you known each other and how many times have you been on a date together?
Author hardlover Posted October 1, 2009 Author Posted October 1, 2009 Wait, how long have you known each other and how many times have you been on a date together? Everyday for like first 4 months, and then much less. However, always like 4 phone calls. It was a very intensive relationship that crashed abruptly in one week, where the love was totally gone, and it was boring as **** to be togheter. We were totally distant. Only arguing the last month, and arguing like once a week month 3-4. Not a single argument first two months.
New_Life08 Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Hmm, what were the arguments about? I ask bc I have a similar situation, only above all else he and I love each other madly. Our situation was that we started out being very close and connected. It felt so good to finally be with a man who I could feel absolutely safe to express myself and vice versa. We talked about failed past relationships...how we want to do this right with complete honesty, communication, and trust. I will try to be as brief as possible...bc it is involved. Anyway some things happened that made me question him. Nothing major, but it involved ex gf's that he was still very close friends with. It didn't take long to figure out that their friendships are very emotionally dependent. He agreed with me that the communication between them was crossing the line in our relationship. But instead of telling the women he could not be hooking up and talking on the phone to them like he used to....he chose to hide it from me, and I caught on to it. After the great start we had with the heart to heart talks it really took the wind out of my sails, and it was hard to have the same closeness with him after being deceived. It was not the friends that bothered me so much as it was the deception. We are working on all of this now, but what I am trying to say is ....Did anything happen that would have caused your gf to become distant? It may even be something that seems like no big deal to you but could have been to her. It just seems odd that she would pull away for no reason. Especially since you started out so happy. Maybe you should ask her about it. Best of luck...I hope it all works out for you.
midawg Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 Every relationship has the 3-4 month honeymoon phase. Guess what, the honeymoon part is over. A relationship has to evolve. It is quite obvious that after the initial honeymoon phase you two are drifting apart, and quickly. The question is. Do you want to try and save what you have.
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