kahn2154 Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Let just say hypothetically you moved to a new place, had no connections and knew absolutely no one, how would you go about meeting new people and making friends?
nobody's girl Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 I second meetup.com Also try: join a gym join the YMCA get a dog and join a dog park or walk in a public park go to the library attend local free concerts attend local fairs/festivals/etc. check the community calendar in the local newspaper (or their website)
carhill Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Story: Never had been to the FSU. Plane got snowed in at Chicago and my connections in Lviv didn't know I was going to be a day late (this long before cell phones and wi-fi); I got to talking to a guy on the plane from Chicago to Warsaw and he was flying home to Lviv to visit family. I told him my problem and he told me not to worry he would take care of me. His family met him at the airport, they helped me clear customs and immigration and sponsored me at the local hotel for a night (you needed a sponsor back then to check in). They made sure I was OK and contacted my other friends there for me to let them know where I was. All this from someone I never knew. Saw he and his family again during the trip (he gave me his address and phone in Lviv and Chicago) to say thanks and to bring them a small gift. It's like that everywhere I go. There's always someone. That's what I'd do if living somewhere new. Heck, I've ridden the subway in NYC and gotten to know people, a little (hey, it's NYC ). Even the transit cops are friendly, mostly. Stop at a deli; buy a newspaper. Whatever. Just get out there.
Author kahn2154 Posted October 2, 2009 Author Posted October 2, 2009 I seem to have trouble with small talk like that, is see it happen, but whenever I am in the situation it seems like people do not want to be bothered and no conversation occurs. I just can't talk to strangers, I have to know someone a bit before I become more open.
Glenn5 Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 I seem to have trouble with small talk like that, is see it happen, but whenever I am in the situation it seems like people do not want to be bothered and no conversation occurs. I just can't talk to strangers, I have to know someone a bit before I become more open. Jap the web might the place to start first. Facebook
Not the love ace Posted October 2, 2009 Posted October 2, 2009 Find a social group that is interested in the things you like and find out where they are having events, like some before me have mentioned, meetup.com is great amongst other social net-working sites. You really just have to put yourself out there and stick out like a sore thumb. Ignore all the negatives and go in for the positive's sometimes you have to be a little ballsy and get people's attention...In a good way of course.
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