Lost I feel he may be cheating

[scatterd]

I am a 48 year old woman my husband is 41 we have been married for 16 yrs we have raised our two children and have two grand children.Our marriage has had ups and downs but the last two have been hard.we was very active we camped fished moto crossed and enjoyed family.After moto-cross my back went out and I suffer from chronic pain I use to do everything so all he had to do was work but he has to help me now,after that his brother died and then 6 weeks later my dad.It has been depressing and hard. He started pushing me away and has only had sex with me about five times in 14 months and hes deffensive which makes it hard to get a long. I asked him to go get counciling with me I told him this is not normal that we need help, but he refused.I went to the store and a lady there has said things to me rude about our marriage and seems to know him well I thought she just had a crush.He started coming home late I woke up he was gone when I questioned the time he gave me the wrong time and hesitated inbetween questions he told me a lady at work asked him to have a drink and they went to her house but I have nothing to worry about because she is lesbian and her friends also ,he was the only man there. Two weeks later he desided we need to split he said I cant do things with him then the next day he said I did do things with him.The day after that he said he did not know what he wants but he needs to go see what he wants but hes not sure if it includes woman or not .Now he is unhappy and is not in love with me.He was coming home late leaving early.He took a bag with him it had a T-shirt shorts and shampoo he said they have a basketball team at work I was a mess for two weeks but I have excepted this.I started packing yesterday and then he said he thought we was going to work this out that I should move in the other room and see if we could be friends and see how it gos, but now Im not sure I want to be with someone who does not love me.Does anyone know whats going on I am so mixed up now.I am very attractive iv been told and im thin and I try to be a good person.I am lost.Now he wants to work it out have not seen him taking his bag hes coming and going has overtime now but talks very little about us hes is having a hard time looking me in the eyes and really does not say anything about us like he avoiding it.I wrote one part of this over a week ago the other last pert today.I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN TRUSTING BUT HAVING A HARD TIME NOW!

WE MADE OUT YESTERDAY NOT SURE IF IT MEANS ANYTHING TO HIM.

 

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[FeelingLonely98]

Where are you now Scatterd? meaning in the relationship - better, worse, status quo?

[aloneinseattle]

First thing you need to do is get out of that house, get your space and you need time to think, he is only hurting you more, by you staying there. It is obvious he is involved with the "other" woman, and thats the reason he feels guilty and can not look you in the eye's. So do your self a favor and get him out of your life, no use being in a one sided relationship.