TigerButterfly Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Hi Everyone! I just wanted to run this by you guys and get your opinion. About 2 years ago I met this guy in a group therapy type session. We became friends and have been ever since. Only seen him a couple of times but this person texts and calls me everyday and I do mean everyday. Most of his messages are things like "good morning" or "goodnight" you know things like that but there have been times he will call me "the most beautiful girl in the world" or "that he is falling in love with me". Now he has been doing this for almost 2 years. Heres the thing...I have a boyfriend. I have been with him for a year. We have been living together for 10 months outta that year. I HAVE told him that we can only be friends because I am not a cheater and I love my man. He says "if I have to wait then you are worth it. I have waited 2 years and don't regret it at all, you are worth it because you are amazing" IT DOES NOT SEEM TO PHASE HIM THAT I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP. Its like something out of a friggin movie. I have tried to push him away at times. There was time I wouldn't answer his texts or calls. I went 3 WEEKS without responding and he just kept on trying and trying like it wasn't happening. You think most would get the hint but nope. I do care for this person deeply. Aside all that he is a good friend. I can tell him anything. My boyfriend is starting to get pissed and he is not the jealous type. I do sometimes wonder what could be with him too ya know??... Thoughts?
boogieboy Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 You either tell the guy to stop talking to you altogether or you leave your bf for him. Youre gonna lose your bf if you keep doing this, and this guy is NOT a friend, he is a guy that is infatuated with you. The only way to stop it is to TELL him that he has to stop contacting you, that it will never happen, you love your bf and thats it. Otherwise, tell your bf the truth, that youre just enjoying the attention and you want to keep it going.
stace79 Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 I agree with boogie -- you need to tell the guy once and for all to knock it off and then you need to either change your number or block his. This is unfair to your bf and you know it. Additionally, I would wonder if there is something mentally screwed up with this "friend" if he's been acting this way for two years, not to mention that you met him in a therapy group. That is not healthy, nor is it respectful to your current R, and any real friend would respect your R with your current bf.
Author TigerButterfly Posted October 1, 2009 Author Posted October 1, 2009 Interesting, well I try not to judge the other volunteers at the group. We do help families of drug addicts so I think maybe you might think its something else but anyhoo... Thats why I asked because 2 years to try and get to someone is weird. I wondered if it was stalkerish or something. Never had an experience like that ya know? Thanks for your input you guys
New Again Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Maybe I'm missing something, but you say you wonder what could been? I find it telling that this other guy has never made a move on you the entire year he knew you and you were single. And you two don't hang out, you just text "hello how are you" type texts to each other sometimes? I don't really get how he would legitimately be able to develop feelings for you with that kind of contact, and vice versa.
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