taylor13 Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 This guy and I had been dating for about 7 months. We broke up a couple weeks ago when he was (in his words) going through a rough time and starting shutting me out. He said that he needed to 'figure things out' and that he didn't want to keep hurting me. Within only a week of not talking to eachother he says he misses me and that he wants to try again. He's a genuine guy, but I'm worried that he is young and doesn't know what he wants at this stage in his life. I like him a lot and really do want to try again, but am I jumping back into an impossible situation? And let's say I DO go back, is it fair to ask him if we can start off seeing each other only on weekends? Does that kinda thing work with someone you've already been seeing? Here's my reasoning. Right before we broke up we were hanging out a ton, but it was uncomfortable and not at all romantic. I want to avoid that and instead bring a little excitement back while also taking a little bit of the pressure off (from both sides). I realize that every situation is different but I would appreciate feedback/past experiences!
stace79 Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 My first question is whether he had met someone else. Maybe that's just the paranoia talking. I think if I were you and wanting to give him a second chance, I would propose just casually dating him again. Give him a chance to show you that he can treat you better without neglecting you. If you just jump back into exclusivity, I think it will be harder to extricate yourself if he hasn't at all changed. Maybe you should tell us a little more about what exactly he was doing to "shut you out" and what his "rough time" was about?
hannie_1988 Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Yeah that's it.. Or maybe he thought he lost his feelings for you but after you're gone.. He soon realised that he has a feelings for you way deep down inside. Talk to him, find out all the solutions and then go from there.
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