boldjack Posted October 9, 2009 Posted October 9, 2009 Stoic and unemotional, huh? Well Ruby, remember what your Momma always said" Still waters run deep". Maybe this is his way of hiding a case of first date jitters. You never know.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 Stoic and unemotional, huh? Well Ruby, remember what your Momma always said" Still waters run deep". Maybe this is his way of hiding a case of first date jitters. You never know. I think you're right. He began to effuse a little bit in the e-mail the day after the date. All the clues are adding up to the fact that he's a little shy and probably did have a bit of first-date nervousness. Funny, because I thought I would be nervous, and I went into it with confidence and genuine exuberance. I have totally got my mojo back, and it seems to be showing. I think it's pretty clear he likes me a lot and is interested. He said he would like to see me again, and the sooner the better. No rules at play here -- I genuinely am busy all weekend, but told him I'm flexible next week. I wish I had time to see him this weekend, but I do think it's kind of fun to draw out the anticipation a bit. I'm enjoying this dating thing.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted October 9, 2009 Author Posted October 9, 2009 aren't you glad that you listened to my advice that 'it was just coffee' ? congrats. Yes! Thank you for being a good voice of reason.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted October 13, 2009 Author Posted October 13, 2009 Date #2 is this weekend. This time, Friday night... babeh. He called me this evening to plan it. Even though he was audibly under the weather, he offered me the option of any of three events, in addition to dinner, which are all enticing me -- one music event, one live theater, and one film. Our conversation was excellent. I am delighted that I actually have to work a bit to keep up with him intellectually and in terms of fun verbal play. That almost never happens. I love it. Now, what am I going to wear?
boldjack Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 That would depend on which event you go to, wouldn't it?
Author Ruby Slippers Posted October 13, 2009 Author Posted October 13, 2009 (edited) I think I'm going with the film option. There are some good arty foreign films playing (international film festival!). So, dinner and a movie: relaxed yet sexy. Edited October 13, 2009 by Ruby Slippers
boldjack Posted October 13, 2009 Posted October 13, 2009 Well if you go with the film, you want to be "smart", but slightly sexual. Just don't tart it up too much. He will be watching you and not the film, which will stifle post-movie conversation. Hey I used to be the dating master!!:laugh:
Author Ruby Slippers Posted October 17, 2009 Author Posted October 17, 2009 (edited) Date #2 was last night. We definitely turned up the heat. Great film at the international film festival followed by talkback with the director, then a delectable dinner at a good restaurant with great atmosphere, then European beers and bein' a little touchy-feely at a pub with a beer list a mile long. Yum. I wore a little black dress with mid-calf boots -- relaxed but sexy -- and that was definitely the right choice. He said he had to get up at 6:00 for work, and it was already pretty late, so he suggested he come over and we extend the fun and just sleep together for a couple hours before work. I waffled in my mind, but totally wanted to, so went for it. This might break some "rules" , but screw the rules. I'm taking what I need from those and still being myself. Once we got to my place, homeboy wasn't shy any more. But he was still a total gentleman, and we didn't take it any further than high school level foolin' around. hehe The chemistry is HOT, and I cannot wait to see how it develops. But all signs are very, very good. He totally had me swooning and dizzy a few times. Yum. It's been too long!! We had some sweet talk about the night we met, and he was doing some cute dreamy future planning. Nothing crazy, just playful little comments. He told me he meets a lot of women through work and volunteering, but he hasn't felt the connection with any of them that he does with me. I considered this could be a line, but the chemistry is palpable, and the intensity of the attraction bubbling underneath the surface (and beginning to overboil) is obvious. I don't think you can fake that stuff. When we woke up, he immediately said he was weighing the pros and cons of calling in sick, but concluded it wouldn't be a great day for it. Then he ruminated on the next time he gets to see me. Even though I can't wait to see him again, I am totally playing it cool, while still being my sweet and sensual self. I am having fun with this, and just taking it one date at a time. But man, I woke up feeling like a sex bomb, and I am so smilie and giggly today. One of my best friends called me shortly after I woke up, and I gave her all the dirt and asked for her unbiased opinion of the situation. She says it sounds amazing and he sounds fantastic and sweet. Yes. Edited October 17, 2009 by Ruby Slippers
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