HBJen Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Well - for those of you who dont know my story - I know I posted it on here somewhere, and a few other points too about what is going on. I decided to go against the forum's recommendations on No Contact, because - while I believe some circumstances need NC, I didnt feel that mine did. So my ex and I have been in contact quite a bit over the past month - talking every day - but because we live in 2 different cities (about a 7 hour drive apart) we havent seen eachother. A couple weeks ago, I suggested that maybe we get together before I venture on a trip for a month (A trip I scheduled so that I can get over the pain that I am feeling). His first reaction was, he wasnt ready and that he felt it would be too painful to see me right now while he doesnt have his head together. I didnt push, I encouraged him to focus on what he needed to do, and didnt bring it up again. Last night, I was joking around with him and said something like "Why dont you just stop being a baby, and drive up here to see me?" Cause he was complaining about being bored at the time. And, surprisingly, he came back with the answer of "Ok, I will drive up on Friday". I was shocked, to be honest, haha - really didnt believe he was going to. We are both going to see eachother, mainly because we miss eachother - but also because we need to get a little bit of clarity on where things stand with us. The last time we saw eachother, was a 7 hour drive back here to my house - of complete silence and dispair. Obviously not the greatest last impression of eachother. We are going to Niagara Falls for the weekend - I booked 2 seperate hotel rooms, because I dont feel that physical contact right now will be a benefit to my emotions. But, I am really looking forward to having some fun with him - and seeing if the sparks are still there. Any advice for me before I go? Cheers, Jen
hoping2heal Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Yes, tread lightly. Tread VERY lightly. I do remember you and your post, and it may be a great thing that you two have stayed in daily contact and are going away for the weekend, or it may be not such a good thing that you two stay in contact daily, make visits to see eachother yet he won't comitt to you. I'm guessing you'll figure out which one it is after this weekend is over. Good on you for thinking to book seperate rooms.
Author HBJen Posted October 1, 2009 Author Posted October 1, 2009 Hey H2H, Thanks for the feedback. I have no idea what is good or what isnt - so, I am sure to find out. I think in all honesty, seeing him and spending some quality time together will allow us both the opportunity to understand where we stand together better. In no way does this mean we are getting back together - I am going away a week later for a month, and then I hope all of this will bring a bit of perspective to the situation. I am just really excited to see my best friend again, and I hope that this brings some answers to both of us.
ecm Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 don't sit on the same couch, or too much, or cuddle, or get too close...unless you want to hook up. (Or if those things wouldn't affect you, you are much stronger than I) and go play wheel of fortune at the casino.
Author HBJen Posted October 2, 2009 Author Posted October 2, 2009 don't sit on the same couch, or too much, or cuddle, or get too close...unless you want to hook up. (Or if those things wouldn't affect you, you are much stronger than I) and go play wheel of fortune at the casino. I never play wheel of fortune, but - because you mentioned it, I am going to - maybe it will be my lucky game Thanks for the advice. I am leaving shortly, more nervous than I think I have ever been in my entire life!!! I hope it all goes well.
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