Stephend09 Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 Hey, Me and my girlfriend have been together about 3 months now and recently ive been getting more and more paranoid about her texting other fellas. Ive asked her to stop and she has but there was someone this past week and shes said that hes just a close friend but last night she said she didnt want to be that close to him because she only wats that with me and i asked how she was going 2 avoid him and she said that she wouldnt text him or anything anymore but she was textin him earlier giving him all these kisses when he only gave one. Ive been controlling my paranoia but that just set it of again. Can anyone Help? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Quest Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 Just check that her words and her actions match up. As long as they do there is nothing to worry about IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted October 3, 2009 Share Posted October 3, 2009 Let me see if I got this right; she said she was going to stop texting this guy, then was "giving her all these kisses" WTF is that? Totally disrespectful. Tell her she's being disrespectful and she lied to you. Tell her your giving her one last chance to make ammends and knock it off. Tell her if she EVER texts this guy again, your relationship is done. IMO I would have already dumped her after the first time she lied. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 but she was textin him earlier giving him all these kisses when he only gave one. Ive been controlling my paranoia but that just set it of again. Can anyone Help? Thanks You aren't being paranoid. getting all cutesy with another guy and flirting is her seeing how far she can push the boundaries....she is testing the waters. a few little "kisses" by text will start to turn into other things. Basically she is text flirting. you don't send kisses to another guy, text or otherwise, when you have a committed boyfriend. I would expect to be slapped across the face if I did that and had a girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Hop_prophet Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Yeah there is definitely something wrong here. First of all close "friends" don't send each other lots of kisses. She is being a total flirt and disrespecting you in a major way not to mention the outright lies. This is a major red flag and is probably only the beginning of what you will find. You need to call her out on it. I agree with some others that it is grounds for dumping her on the spot since trust is already compromised (or at the very least give an ultimatum). My gf texts other guys a lot too and I have to say it does bother me. However, she does not let anything innapporpriate go on and she is never secretive about it. She will show me the conversations if I ask and has never deleted phone history or tried to hide it from me, otherwise I would have a major problem with it. Link to post Share on other sites
zilverenvlinder Posted October 6, 2009 Share Posted October 6, 2009 You shouldn't be having these problems at a mere 3 months. Sorry, but you shouldn't. Link to post Share on other sites
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