Hkizzle Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 No, I am not a misogynist. I hate A woman, not women. I really like this girl, and I'm just curious why some girls will gravitate to men that will obviously break their hearts. Hell I even danced with her friend that's hotter than she is, and a couple of other girls but no, she doesn't give a ****. She goes and hangs out again with ANOTHER group of players. The only consolatio prize is I got a pic of me and Bob Sapp flexing our biceps on the dance floor because he's in HK for a fight. Bob Sapp is a friggin monster, I love him too (in another way). Anyway, what's wrong with some women, are they really that attracted to the confidence in guys that don't give a ****, or are they in reality just afraid of falling in love?
Roxanna Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Not to be mean, but that attitude isn't really helpful to your situation. Everyone's at fault but you. Just because you like someone doesn't she will be, or has to be, attracted to you or interested in you. You should know that, since you're all about this evolutionary stuff. Anyway, what's wrong with some women, are they really that attracted to the confidence in guys that don't give a ****, or are they in reality just afraid of falling in love? It's not her, it's you.
Author Hkizzle Posted September 30, 2009 Author Posted September 30, 2009 Not to be mean, but that attitude isn't really helpful to your situation. Everyone's at fault but you. Just because you like someone doesn't she will be, or has to be, attracted to you or interested in you. You should know that, since you're all about this evolutionary stuff. I know the evolutionary stuff........... I just find it sad I have to use the "optimal" strategy to get someone. I mean, her friend was even better looking and yet I like this girl, and I can sense this girl KNOWS what's going on. Like I was talking to her with another guy earlier, and we were talking about how people with symmetical faces are more attractive, and I said she had a symmetical face. Then my friend agreed, and she goes and hugs him and ignores me! WTF she's deliberately doing that! Some of the women going for jerks are not purely attracted to the jerks. They're scared of anyone truly loving them. It's like it repulses them. That's friggin sad.
Roxanna Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Obviously she wasn't interested. Apparently not so obviously...as OP is convinced she's a wounded soul afraid of being loved But yup, I agree.
BCCA Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Dude, she wasnt into you. It has nothing to do with jerks or anything else, she was more into the other guy that agreed. She wasnt affraid of you loving her, she wanted the other guy to instead. Happens to the best of us, brush your shoulders off and get back out there.
dreamergrl Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Big shocker I know, but just because a girl isn't interested in you doesn't mean she's forever attracted to an ahole that will hurt her. What place is it yours to say the guy she was interested in will hurt her? Maybe she was afraid of you loving her, just not in the way you were thinking. I think what is sad is that someone's ego has to be so blown up that they think there has to be another reason why someone doesn't like them, other then it's the person with the ego.
Author Hkizzle Posted September 30, 2009 Author Posted September 30, 2009 Dude, she wasnt into you. It has nothing to do with jerks or anything else, she was more into the other guy that agreed. She wasnt affraid of you loving her, she wanted the other guy to instead. Happens to the best of us, brush your shoulders off and get back out there. I read people very well in real life. I know what the dynamics of the situation is. If she's INTO PLAYERS, that's different from SHE's SCARED. If she's into a player this wouldn't be worthy of a thread.
Author Hkizzle Posted September 30, 2009 Author Posted September 30, 2009 Dude, she wasnt into you. It has nothing to do with jerks or anything else, she was more into the other guy that agreed. She wasnt affraid of you loving her, she wanted the other guy to instead. Happens to the best of us, brush your shoulders off and get back out there. I am going to get back out there. I ain't screaming about irrational anxiety disorders or nothing. I just find it sad that some people are actually conditioned by their past.
New Again Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Yup, she just wasn't interested in you.
Trimmer Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 So, ate you saying that you are confident you are reading her so well that you know that she would be good with you, but she's not allowing herself to do that because she's afraid of a good thing, instead, protecting herself out of fear of a good relationship by gravitating toward someone you think (because you read people so well) will hurt her. As opposed to: she's just not interested in you? If I may paraphrase your signature line: What many people fail to realize is that it's possible to feel attraction for someone who is not interested in return, and they need to learn that love and attraction doesn't make the other person more interested.
Author Hkizzle Posted September 30, 2009 Author Posted September 30, 2009 So, ate you saying that you are confident you are reading her so well that you know that she would be good with you, but she's not allowing herself to do that because she's afraid of a good thing, instead, protecting herself out of fear of a good relationship by gravitating toward someone you think (because you read people so well) will hurt her. As opposed to: she's just not interested in you? Yup, I'm an arrogant bastard. Ain't that sweet. Or maybe I saw through her act. Her dad left her when she was just a kid, and she's drawn to men that don't care like a magnet.
dreamergrl Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I am going to get back out there. I ain't screaming about irrational anxiety disorders or nothing. I just find it sad that some people are actually conditioned by their past. I think it's sad that you have to resort to analyzing her instead of accepting she wasn't into you. Why is it that you think that just because she wanted another dude there is something wrong with her?
dreamergrl Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Yup, I'm an arrogant bastard. Ain't that sweet. Or maybe I saw through her act. Her dad left her when she was just a kid, and she's drawn to men that don't care like a magnet. FYI just because someone's dad left them when they were a kid, doesn't mean they are screwed up as an adult.
Author Hkizzle Posted September 30, 2009 Author Posted September 30, 2009 I think it's sad that you have to resort to analyzing her instead of accepting she wasn't into you. Why is it that you think that just because she wanted another dude there is something wrong with her? She didn't want another dude. I said players. So easy to get some people worked up on this forum. Some of you are so friggin sensitive. Yawn, I'm going to bed.
loveslife Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Hk, I hate to say it but regardless of the truth of the situation with this girl, you are coming across as one of those people who come on here wanting to villify someone who rejected you.
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Mystery leads by example. If the girl isn't interested, next her, since there's obviously something wrong with her for not being interested in such fine specimens like Mystery and his converts!!
Author Hkizzle Posted September 30, 2009 Author Posted September 30, 2009 Mystery leads by example. If the girl isn't interested, next her, since there's obviously something wrong with her for not being interested in such fine specimens like Mystery and his converts!! Haha, I know you don't like me for advancing the PUA cause. But if you read my previous posts you will find that I ONLY advocate PUA stuff for the confidence impaired as training wheels. I'm told others that the PUA lifestyle will screw their lives up. I hope you weren't selectively reading what I said. Anyway, I'm listening to Rihanna, that's so bad! Time for bed.
loveslife Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Mystery leads by example. If the girl isn't interested, next her, since there's obviously something wrong with her for not being interested in such fine specimens like Mystery and his converts!! TBF, Have you not been following Hk's threads? He is a former player who has turned over a new leaf. And he is very frustrated by women - because ALL the women he meets at clubs reject him now if he's acting "nice." They will probably all flock to him once his book hits the bestseller list though.
donnamaybe Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 So easy to get some people worked up on this forum. Obviously so.
Trimmer Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 She didn't want another dude. I said players. So easy to get some people worked up on this forum. Some of you are so friggin sensitive. Yawn, I'm going to bed. Heh heh - we're worked up and sensitive? Goddamn I hate A woman
stace79 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Maybe she knows you are shallow and realizes you are "settling" for her since you think her friend is so much hotter. Did you actually try to speak to her or are you playing stupid games like hinting around she might be pretty? Why not just ask her out? We women get a lot of idiot guys dancing around the subject of dates and attraction, so the attitude of me and my friends now is "Well, you wanna go out with me? Come right out and ask...and until you do we're not going to worry about giving you a ton of attention." I know the evolutionary stuff........... I just find it sad I have to use the "optimal" strategy to get someone. I mean, her friend was even better looking and yet I like this girl, and I can sense this girl KNOWS what's going on. Like I was talking to her with another guy earlier, and we were talking about how people with symmetical faces are more attractive, and I said she had a symmetical face. Then my friend agreed, and she goes and hugs him and ignores me! WTF she's deliberately doing that! Some of the women going for jerks are not purely attracted to the jerks. They're scared of anyone truly loving them. It's like it repulses them. That's friggin sad.
Star Gazer Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 (edited) Or maybe I saw through her act. Her dad left her when she was just a kid, and she's drawn to men that don't care like a magnet. That really is quite possible. FYI just because someone's dad left them when they were a kid, doesn't mean they are screwed up as an adult. Your dismissal of this is wrong on many levels. The fact that you're ignoring this speaks volumes. Having your dad walk out on you may cause you to be drawn to emotionally unavailable men. Edited October 17, 2009 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
dreamergrl Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 That really is quite possible. Your dismissal of this is wrong on many levels. The fact that you're ignoring this speaks volumes. There's no doubt that having your dad walk out on you causes you to be drawn to emotionally unavailable men. Ask your therapist about it. My dad didn't just up and leave me, thanks, but there's much more too it, and that IS something I let go of quite some time ago. But my post has nothing to do with this post. I know quite a few people who are missing a parent in their life, and they are getting along just fine in dating, their relationships, and their marriages. I think it's quite arrogant to assume that just because someone rejected you means there is something wrong with them.
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