OpenGL Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 My theory is women are not always as enlightened as they should be. Give me other reasons?
Ilovecake Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 they crave the drama of being around a difficult person. Wait, can you define ‘women’?
JohnP82 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Confidence maybe. I guess they think bad boys are the only guys that know how to have fun. Whatever it is, don't worry about it. If a girl goes for a bad boy she's not worth it and whenever it does come back to bite her in the ass don't be that loser that is there to hold her hand and boost her ego. Date girls that aren't crazy.
leap83 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Why do men date/marry bitches and bimbos? Same thing.
Mixitup123 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 The reason is....we don't actually realise that they are jerks, as they have a good way of hiding it, because they lie, and some women (speaking for myself really) being trusting and truthful think that everyone is like them, and don't realise that there are a load of lying jerks out there, because they are just not like that themselves. That's my experience anyway.
phineas Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 The reason is....we don't actually realise that they are jerks, as they have a good way of hiding it, because they lie, and some women (speaking for myself really) being trusting and truthful think that everyone is like them, and don't realise that there are a load of lying jerks out there, because they are just not like that themselves. That's my experience anyway. I curious, on average how long does it take for you to relize they were lying jerks? I ask because I've been talking to someone that has had two long term relationships with complete idiots that screwed her over & i'm wondering how she didn't see it coming. i'm not judging anyone here. I married a complete POS & never realized it. Neither did my family or my friends.
stillafool Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Why do women love jerks? Probably the same reason men love bad girls - because they're hot!
donnamaybe Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I think some women believe they can change a guy. P.S. Only SOME women go for jerks. Correction: GIRLS go for jerks.
Woggle Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 God knows. What type of person actually wants somebody that treats them bad?
Leia Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Jerks are fun but not worth being in a LTR with.
dreamergrl Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Sometimes when a PERSON gets used to being treated poorly, they stay in that cycle. It's all they know, especially if that is how their relationships where from the very start. It's a hard cycle to get out of. Most have been demoralized to the point that they don't seem to think they deserve better when they do. And it doesn't take several bad relationships to do this. It could be one long one, of years of being put down, lied to, ect ect. It's not just women who do this.
BCCA Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Some people cant feel loved without feeling some level of abuse. There are a lot of things that go into this, from abandomment issues, to unresolved issues with their parents, to an ex that really did a number on them. Also, 'jerks' or 'bitches' present a challenge, and are interesting. While for most this is short lived excitement, for some it turns out to be something they cant get away from.
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 My theory is women are not always as enlightened as they should be. Give me other reasons?Women love jerks, just like men love bimbos!!
Hkizzle Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 because some women want to self destruct. So do some men.
Taramere Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Men who act like *******s are probably a lot more likely to broadcast their liaisons all over the place, as are the women they sleep with. It doesn't mean that either type are particularly attractive to the population in general. I can remember small groups of guys who made great noise about their *******ry when I was at university. They hit on the majority of women at some point or another, and they also tended to get knocked back by the majority of women. An example of a typical approach would be that you (woman) would be in the union bar. You'd be walking past a group of them, and they'd stop you and ask if you wanted to hear a brilliant joke. "okay" (curiosity). "Great. But first you have to show us your tits." You'd walk on and they'd try to call you back with "What? What did I say wrong? Uhuhuhuh." Occasionally they'd get lucky, but more often that was with women who weren't students but who had got those guys to sign them into the union as guests (cheap drink draw). That was a fair while back though. Now that almost anyone can get on a degree programme, guys like that probably have a bit more luck on the student scene. Or maybe there's just been a bit of a switch in the female mentality. Thinking of that quote from Trainspotting: 1,000 years from now, there’ll be no guys or girls, just wankers
phineas Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Women love jerks, just like men love bimbos!! If I love a bimbo it's in the same sense I love a certain type of beer.
Skump Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Why do women love jerks?Most don't, per se. Women like men who are confident and who arouse some feelings of excitement or passion. Almost every woman would prefer to date a confident, exciting, and kind man if she could get one - but these men are rarer than jerks and in high demand. Accordingly, lots of (particularly young) women will accept a jerk on a temporary basis because jerks often have confidence in spades (attractive on a conscious and sub-conscious level) and can be fun to be around on a superficial level. That's an oversimplified explanation but I think it's about 75%+ of the real picture.
sumdude Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Accordingly, lots of (particularly young) women will accept a jerk on a temporary basis because jerks often have confidence in spades (attractive on a conscious and sub-conscious level) and can be fun to be around on a superficial level. Do you believe it's a real confidence? Seems to me man who is truly comfortable in his own skin and confident wouldn't treat others badly.
Chicago_Guy Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Hasn't this previously been discussed in about 50 other threads?
Skump Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Do you believe it's a real confidence? Seems to me man who is truly comfortable in his own skin and confident wouldn't treat others badly. Well, there are a fair number of successful jerks: Many have aggressive personalities, and that's been a big factor in their personal success stories. Plenty of people exist who act like jerks in spite of having reasonable grounds for confidence. Now, whether in most of those cases there's a lot of insecurity below the surface, I couldn't say. Regardless, I think that much of the attraction that confidence inspires occurs at an animal level, and philosophical/psychological questions about the reality of said confidence are beside the point - at least in the short term, a successful forgery of confidence may be as good as the real thing in matters of the heart.
aerogurl87 Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Well I've ran across two type of jerks in my lifetime. The first type are those that lack confidence and seem like prince charming, but are really just using that as a cover to hide their complete lack of self confidence and laundry list of emotional problems. My ex boyfriend was like that. The second type is like one of my friends who is a certified womanizer. They ooze confidence and are usually the center of attention when they enter a room. The first type attract women with their nice guy persona, and are good at fooling women until they can get the woman invested completely in them and the relationship before they flip on them. The second type are like a sort of challenge. They are the guys almost every woman wants to be with and that mixed with their outward show of confidence is what draws a woman in.
Hkizzle Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Most don't, per se. Women like men who are confident and who arouse some feelings of excitement or passion. Almost every woman would prefer to date a confident, exciting, and kind man if she could get one - but these men are rarer than jerks and in high demand. Accordingly, lots of (particularly young) women will accept a jerk on a temporary basis because jerks often have confidence in spades (attractive on a conscious and sub-conscious level) and can be fun to be around on a superficial level. That's an oversimplified explanation but I think it's about 75%+ of the real picture. Most accurate answer.
Hkizzle Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 Well I've ran across two type of jerks in my lifetime. The first type are those that lack confidence and seem like prince charming, but are really just using that as a cover to hide their complete lack of self confidence and laundry list of emotional problems. My ex boyfriend was like that. The second type is like one of my friends who is a certified womanizer. They ooze confidence and are usually the center of attention when they enter a room. The first type attract women with their nice guy persona, and are good at fooling women until they can get the woman invested completely in them and the relationship before they flip on them. The second type are like a sort of challenge. They are the guys almost every woman wants to be with and that mixed with their outward show of confidence is what draws a woman in. I think you're describing the difference between a player and a narcissist. The Narcissist is the first type you mentioned.
aerogurl87 Posted October 1, 2009 Posted October 1, 2009 I think you're describing the difference between a player and a narcissist. The Narcissist is the first type you mentioned. Well players are jerks too, and well yeah he was a bit of a narcissist I must say, but not all narcissists are jerks and well he was just a jerk.
Recommended Posts