Msbrokenheart Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 ive been with my ex for 5 years and a half..coming on 6 in dec, he broke up with me a month ago, reason was he wanted to focus on getting fit and doing up and his car, and thinks he doesn't have time or money for a girlfriend now, said i put alot of stress on him. Hmm...ironically i don't spend any of his money, i always do everything with him, i would do anything to be with him..so as you can tell i did beg and hoped he would change his mind cos its a stupid reason. Also during this break up session he told me this girl that he works with which also has been calling him constantly whenever im with him (i did confront him about her and he told me she had a bf and nothing was going on, just friends), well she told him she'd liked him. I got even worse from that, but he kept denying the break up had anything to do with her. Well i took his word for it and tried moving on, i saw him twice since we broken up, one cos i needa service my car and he drove me there, two cos my dog that we bought together got ran over, and i really needed him. That day was one of the worse in my life, he not only didn't comfort me but felt annoyed i was there, no hugs no comforting. But i havent talked to him for a month now. During this time i talked to his younger sis, i asked her if he was seeing anyone, she told me he was, my heart broke into a thousand pieces, Bad luck doesn't end there, i got in a car accident two days ago (not my fault-insurance said so) my ex heard about it from a friend of his. He calls me three times and msg me "hey heard you had a car accident, are u ok? msg me back if u dun wana talk to me"..i kept telling myself not to call or msg him yesterday but i did at 1am..he calls me back straight away. It started all nice with him asking about what happened, i told him, but then i went straight to asking him about whats happeneing with him. I said i saw pics of him and the girl on his facebook, the EXACT girl he said he doesnt like when he broke up with me...he told me he didnt want me to know cos it'll hurt me. He told me he constantly thinks of me and misses me, and wants to meet up for coffee next week, i did agree then we ended the convo cos he had to go to work. i couldn't sleep till 4am this morning..was so tired for work. I talked to my friend and he said i shouldnt meet up with him, i then msged my ex to say " i dont think we should see eachother, all the best with your girl". Do you guys think im right? why does he say he misses me and thinks about me all the time? it made me cry so much when i talked to him, and now i feel so bitter/sweet...does he want to use me on the side and still have her too?...i really dont know..i miss him dearly but i know he's not the right one for me..it just hurts so much seeing the pictures of him and her..and the fact he had lied to me from the very start of the break up, "no gf for at least 6 months"..such lies and bullcrap.. im so upset guys.. i'm so sorry if this is really long..but i feel like i need to let it out and want to hear some advice from all of you..thank you so much if u guys can give ur opinion..
Cora Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I am so sorry!! It broke my heart to read this. I do think you are doing the right thing by not seeing him. You need time to heal and get over him. That's very hard to do while still meeting up with him etc. In my opinion he just wants to keep you around just in case....which is why he says he misses you etc. Please don't fall for it! I know it must hurt you right now to know that he is with someone else, but you know what? It's his loss! It's going to take you awhile to heal because you two were together for such a long time, but the worst thing you could do is to continue to meet up with him and staying updated on his Facebook status/viewing his pics etc. Take care of yourself and try to keep yourself busy so you wont spend your time thinking about him. Again, I am so sorry you are going through this right now. It's never easy, but hang in there because you will get through it! (((Hugs)))
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