he left me but still tells me im his world an he loves me to bits?

[bettybree]

hey people im new to this lol.. but i need help... my bf an i was together 3 and a half years i cheated on him a year and a half ago i was confused i thought i still was in love with my ex... anyways i told my bf what i had done and it broke his heart as it would and anyways we stayed together up untill 3 weeks ago. we always was fighting he would throw it in my face pretty much everyday but it was like i said to him i didnt make him stay with me its was him who wanted to stay but then keep bringing up what i done so yea 3 weeks ago he told me he didnt wanna be with me anymore so yep ok.. but he still tells me he loves me to bits he wont let me go out with my friends to drink because he thinks im goin out looking for men tells me that im not to get with anyone or he will hurt them.... i just dont understand he wanted to brake up but yet its still like we are together he tells me what i can an cant do an so on an so on... i love him very much and would love to work things out with him but he has told me himself he just cant get the thought of me cheating on him outta his head he is hurt so much because of it.. but yet he comes around an wants to sleep with me an always asking for my help with things and that but then he just changes again and i get the cold shoulder from him i just dunno what to do?????????????????

[ATR]

If i were in his shoes i'd be doing the exact same thing. Who wants to be with a cheater? By cheating on him you showed him that you have no respect for him - no excuses.

Maybe he should leave you alone, but you deserve to be dumped.

You need to make a change and fast because, you know, i'm very fond of the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater".

Also it reads like you are not even guilty about cheating on him, but rather surprised that things aren't the way they are and he's giving you the 'cold shoulder'.

[gavinus]

my advice is this: You can't change the past but you can learn from it! Either be with your guy or don't. You made a mistake cheating, learn from it. A good healthy relationship is based on respect from both parties for each other!! If your guy wants to be with you he should stop bringing up the past. As long as you change from a mistake it was not in vain, good luck

[DustySaltus]

He feels that he has the right to come and go as he pleases after what you did to him. Things will never be the same, he will continue to throw this in your face for as long as you are together. He wants your affection but at the same time doesn't trust you. I'm sure he loves you but without trust the relationship is doomed. It's a tough decision but I would probably leave him alone at this point. It's just too much of an issue to overcome in my eyes, especially the way he is reacting.

[bettybree]

but thats the thing its not me contacting him i try to stay away an tell him not to come round and that. but he keeps comin back an tellin me he loves me and all but is just confused an hurt.. an all i wanna do is tell him i love him so much an want to spend the rest of my life with him but i hold myself back.. im just so confused with what he is feeling because he aint the type of person to open up.......i know i hurt him but we learn from our mistakes. he means the world to me..