tkgirl Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 so today I talked to a really old ex.... no, he isn't old himself! but we broke up about 12 years ago and haven't really spoken since. We ended on a good note.. although the break-up itself was one of those long painful ones, but with both of us finally realizing we wanted different things... basically he was ready to get married and I wasn't. I moved to California, he moved to Colorado and now I ended moving here to CO too... AND I ended up getting a job with the same company (a big one), but at different sites so we never crossed paths. So here's what happened today: my boss who happens to be friends with him and used to work with him was talking to him on the phone. He knew I worked there too and asked if I was there... and all of a sudden she hands the phone to me and says "someone wants to talk to you" It was so weird.. but nice too. We talked like no time had really passed, joked, laughed etc. but I had to get back to work and cut the conversation short. After we hung up I started to feel really wierd... very emotional like I felt like I could cry and realized I missed him... even after all this time! it was very strange. Now I feel like I wish we could talk more... but the thing is he is married now and not that I miss him like that but... And I don't want to be disrespectful of his marriage/wife. Do you guys think it'd be ok to send him an email through our work and maybe see if we could chat some more? I just felt like I ended the conversation too quickly and I don't know... we were very close at one time... together almost three years, lived together and could've gotten married if I was "ready". any thoughts on what I should do.... should I leave it alone or...? anybody else been in a similar situation?
aerogurl87 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 so today I talked to a really old ex.... no, he isn't old himself! but we broke up about 12 years ago and haven't really spoken since. We ended on a good note.. although the break-up itself was one of those long painful ones, but with both of us finally realizing we wanted different things... basically he was ready to get married and I wasn't. I moved to California, he moved to Colorado and now I ended moving here to CO too... AND I ended up getting a job with the same company (a big one), but at different sites so we never crossed paths. So here's what happened today: my boss who happens to be friends with him and used to work with him was talking to him on the phone. He knew I worked there too and asked if I was there... and all of a sudden she hands the phone to me and says "someone wants to talk to you" It was so weird.. but nice too. We talked like no time had really passed, joked, laughed etc. but I had to get back to work and cut the conversation short. After we hung up I started to feel really wierd... very emotional like I felt like I could cry and realized I missed him... even after all this time! it was very strange. Now I feel like I wish we could talk more... but the thing is he is married now and not that I miss him like that but... And I don't want to be disrespectful of his marriage/wife. Do you guys think it'd be ok to send him an email through our work and maybe see if we could chat some more? I just felt like I ended the conversation too quickly and I don't know... we were very close at one time... together almost three years, lived together and could've gotten married if I was "ready". any thoughts on what I should do.... should I leave it alone or...? anybody else been in a similar situation? Don't be a potential home wrecker, leave it alone. You had your chance to be with him but missed it, although it's not really your fault, but you gotta accept that he's married now and need to respect that.
loveslife Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 With the way you're feeling I'd say leave it alone. Otherwise you'd be opening the floodgates for a whole lotta drama and pain.
Author tkgirl Posted September 30, 2009 Author Posted September 30, 2009 Don't be a potential home wrecker, leave it alone. You had your chance to be with him but missed it, although it's not really your fault, but you gotta accept that he's married now and need to respect that. thanks... no, I definitely don't want to be a home wrecker! I guess I just felt like the conversation got cut too short and... he even said that he's been thinking about contacting me since he heard I was here but wasn't sure if he should. I don't know.. he was being very sweet and it was just nice to talk to someone who knew me so well at one time, you know? and maybe it's because I still feel a little lonely since I've moved here.. even though it's been two years. I just don't have a lot of "close" friends here... even though I still keep in touch with a lot of my friends back in Cali... weird... I'm feeling sad again!
Author tkgirl Posted September 30, 2009 Author Posted September 30, 2009 With the way you're feeling I'd say leave it alone. Otherwise you'd be opening the floodgates for a whole lotta drama and pain. yea, you're right.... and lord knows I've had enough drama and pain with my most recent ex!
loveslife Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Yeah. It's so not worth it. Maybe someday down the road it'll be easier...
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