b3nx Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I am thinking of buying my gf a promise ring. We had a moment last week where she was insecure about a message I sent to a girl it was totally harmless but she got upset. We are very close we been together 4 months. Not a long time but I have spent everyday with het and it feels like a few years. I am not ready for engagement but I thought a proomise ring to buy her one day would be a great idea? What do you think? I don't wanna seem whipped but also we are both very happy.. Thoughts? We are both 22
Art_Critic Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 You do know what a promise ring is ? right ? it isn't a friendship ring... "friendship ring" when there is no promise to marry and a "promise ring" when there is a promise to marry You're young so I guess people could believe in those type of rings but honestly I have always been the "all in" or "all out" type of guy.. no middle ground when it comes to engagement or marriage for me.. Do you think she would like and or wear one ?.. Really that is all that matters..
Enema Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Do you really think it's a good idea to try and buy her happiness after a dispute?
Hkizzle Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Do you really think it's a good idea to try and buy her happiness after a dispute? ABSOLUTELY! lol. But I think you should stick to flowers dude.
GoneButNotForgotten Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 From what I've seen in a lot of relationships, a promise ring is the kiss of death. But, you could be an exception. I've just never seen a relationship last after a promise ring came out.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Like art said its a promise of marriage I honestly thought it was more for younger people like teens and so on. Ones who are to young yet for a actual engagement ring. But your both 22 right? id think that be a little awkward childish at 22 I say if your going to promise marriage at your age do it right!
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 From what I've seen in a lot of relationships, a promise ring is the kiss of death. But, you could be an exception. I've just never seen a relationship last after a promise ring came out. Mine did. I married the bastard. Well...I guess technically, then, you could say we didn't last since we're divorced now! Nevermind, then - carry on.
New Again Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Yup, promise rings are a promise to get engaged/married. Have you thought about a claddagh ring or something similar? Claddagh rings signify one's availability, depending on how it's worn, and the symbols on the ring represent love, friendship and loyalty. And they're cheaper too
dreamergrl Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Mine did. I married the bastard. Well...I guess technically, then, you could say we didn't last since we're divorced now! Nevermind, then - carry on. :lmao::lmao: OP - you are 22 - kind of young to be promising marriage after 4 months. I think, if you really want to be with this girl, maybe a better solution would be to talk about what made her so insecure about this message, and have an adult mature conversation about it.
New Again Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 :lmao::lmao: OP - you are 22 - kind of young to be promising marriage after 4 months. I think, if you really want to be with this girl, maybe a better solution would be to talk about what made her so insecure about this message, and have an adult mature conversation about it. Oh, yeah, if this is strictly to do with trying to get her to trust you or something, not gonna work. Since she wears the ring, signaling to other guys that she's unavailable, not you. That is, besides all of the other really obvious reasons.
stace79 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I am thinking of buying my gf a promise ring. We had a moment last week where she was insecure about a message I sent to a girl it was totally harmless but she got upset. We are very close we been together 4 months. Not a long time but I have spent everyday with het and it feels like a few years. I am not ready for engagement but I thought a proomise ring to buy her one day would be a great idea? What do you think? I don't wanna seem whipped but also we are both very happy.. Thoughts? We are both 22 If it were me, I'd go for a different kind of gift to show her you think she's special. What about putting together a photo album of pics of you two? Or maybe burn her a CD of her favorite songs or songs that you both like? Or just plan a nice date. Probably the coolest thing my fiance did was plan a date around things he knew I'd always wanted to do but hadn't been able to. I'd never visited this one great restaurant in town and had never seen this acrobatics show, even though all my family/friends had been. So he made reservations for those things and surprised me on my birthday. Then another birthday he surprised me by putting me in the car and not telling me where we were going -- we ended up in this really cute little town outside of our city where they had a Christmas festival with fake snow and sledding (it's hot here in the winter too haha) and we just walked around and had lunch. The point was those were things he wouldn't necessarily do on his own but he knew I would like them, so he gave up a Saturday.
aerogurl87 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I am thinking of buying my gf a promise ring. We had a moment last week where she was insecure about a message I sent to a girl it was totally harmless but she got upset. We are very close we been together 4 months. Not a long time but I have spent everyday with het and it feels like a few years. I am not ready for engagement but I thought a proomise ring to buy her one day would be a great idea? What do you think? I don't wanna seem whipped but also we are both very happy.. Thoughts? We are both 22 1) Don't buy her a promise ring after an argument. Just talk to her about what happened between you two and try to find a way to prevent it from happening again. 2) Promise rings are for people under the age of 20 in my opinion. It's like for teens as another poster said, who want to promise marriage sometime in the future. If I were 22 and my boyfriend gave me a promise ring I'd be kind of upset since I think at that age the only ring you need to be popping out is an engagement ring. Also my ex boyfriend gave me a promise ring and our relationship went downhill straight after that. So maybe it is the kiss of death, dunno but good luck.
MSUE Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 you are so young...giving a promise ring is a promise to marriage...usually you get a promise ring cause you can't afford an engagement ring so u stick something on that finger till you get the real deal...I would consider a different gift...plus 4 months at 22? rarely lasts...invest more time in the R before you take that step
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