ashleigh422 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Just curious: What is your policy on asking someone to tell you thier number (as in the number of people they have slept with)? Also, what is the reasoning behind your policy?
kdark Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Just curious: What is your policy on asking someone to tell you thier number (as in the number of people they have slept with)? Also, what is the reasoning behind your policy? I don't ask. It's not important.
New Again Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Don't ask, don't tell. It's just better off overall to handle it that way. There are no problems or issues or insecurities.
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I ask and tell. It's important to me not to be with someone who's a man whore.
Author ashleigh422 Posted September 30, 2009 Author Posted September 30, 2009 Glad to have some diversity pop up!! So.. if you decide to ask.. at what point do you ask? Obviosly prior to sleeping with them right? What about if they don't want to tell.. then ok no biggie? Or.. ok they are hiding something..
underpants Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I believe the counter to the magic number is the magic 8 ball.
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 You do it within casual, flirtatious, edgy conversation. Then, you verify it, by asking at another time, when they least expect it, while still building it into a casual convo. If the numbers don't match, oh...oh... If someone won't tell, they're out.
Author ashleigh422 Posted September 30, 2009 Author Posted September 30, 2009 Edgy conversation? LOL.. i don't do that.. What about on the phone.. is that acceptable to ask while on the phone?
Trialbyfire Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Unless this is an LDR ashleigh, these are more face-to-face questions. You know you don't have to care, right? It's not important to some people so they don't bother with it, beyond ensuring that their new partner has come through clean on their recent STD tests.
Kamille Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Edgy conversation? LOL.. i don't do that.. What about on the phone.. is that acceptable to ask while on the phone? I strongly recommend you have this conversation face to face. I've had it in the past, usually brought on by my dates. Oddly enough, said conversation always happened once we were exclusive and already sexually active together. I've never felt the need to know how many people my dates had slept with, just that they had a clean bill of health.
JohnP82 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Some people care and some don't. Do whatever you want and don't listen to people that scoff at your position. I personally care to a certain extent. A huge number would likely turn me off since I don't sleep with everything that moves.
Art_Critic Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I ask and tell. It's important to me not to be with someone who's a man whore. I'm with you here on that.. I don't think I have actually asked.. but I have always the conversation when asked.. I believe the counter to the magic number is the magic 8 ball. Funny thing though.. Each time I try the Magic Eight Ball it with says 69 or time to talk a threesome
CaliGuy Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Just curious: What is your policy on asking someone to tell you thier number (as in the number of people they have slept with)? Also, what is the reasoning behind your policy? a. Don't have a policy. b. Don't care. c. As long as they're dedicated to me, does it matter?
Hkizzle Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I ask and tell. It's important to me not to be with someone who's a man whore. Lol, what gets a guy into the manwhore region? 20,30,40?
Art_Critic Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 c. As long as they're dedicated to me, does it matter? In all reality your are right CG.. it doesn't matter.. it is only a number and it has never affected a relationship with a woman that I can remember.. but in todays reality of STD's it is always a good policy to be well informed..
Art_Critic Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Lol, what gets a guy into the manwhore region? 20,30,40? I think some people like to have numbers similar to themselves regardless to whether the number is high or low..
CaliGuy Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 In all reality your are right CG.. it doesn't matter.. it is only a number and it has never affected a relationship with a woman that I can remember.. but in todays reality of STD's it is always a good policy to be well informed.. Ok, well I think if they have an STD, they should be up front and honest about it. The # of partners is less important than the LUGGAGE you are carrying, lol. After all, one partner is all it takes to get a STD....
looking4 green grass Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I don't ask b/c I don't want to tell! Now, I ask is that both parties involved (me and guy) get tested BEFORE having sex. And yes, we have a sit down face to face where we bring the results. I only get one vagina, and a man has got to be willing to show responsibility before he gets anywhere near it. Who cares what his number is as long as he doesn't have anything.
D-Lish Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I don't ask and I don't tell. The only thing that is important is whether or not we are dedicated to one another. STD tests are important though.
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