CSU Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 This guy I was talking to who happened to be in the navy sent me a text about how he doesn't think a relationship will work for us right now but maybe we should be good friends for right now because in 3 months he's leaving to go to a different base and then in april or june he's going to be stationed in San Diego for 2 years. I had sent him text telling him how I felt about him. Last week he told me he loved me. He was also going through a hard time. Well I've been crying all afternoon and we talked on the phone which made it even harder. I really cared about this guy and he really cared about me. He told me that maybe down the road we'll be able to have a relationship, but right now isn't the time but he wants to remain good friends. I don't know what to do or think. I really liked him and he was the first guy I think I ever loved and meant it. I mean he was the first one to say " I love you, I fell in love with you." I'm just really sad and know that I will never find a guy like him near me. Any advice or whatever would be nice.
tryagaintoday Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Heartache's as good as you feel it, CSU. If you asked me, I think this is a good person. He knows that he'll be leaving and may be keeping his options open. He is selfless enough to let you know so you can try moving on as well and not wait for him. You believe in Fate? I think "fate is always up against your will". Sometimes no matter how much you try, things just happen or wouldn't happen. Getting on and moving on and seeing what life has to bring is always nice. Just my though, hope you feel better.
Northwesthunny Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 my ex was in the army (british), when we met he was based about 45mins away from me but when we actually got together he had been moved to Northern Ireland which is a plane ride away. At first he got scared and didnt think it would work - he had never been in a relationship before and was starting to haev strong feelings for me. We stayed together, and was with each other for 2years yes it was hard but we worked at it. Maybe try and speak with him and tell him that your willing to put up with the long distance.
Author CSU Posted September 30, 2009 Author Posted September 30, 2009 I've tried that and all he keeps on saying that its for the best and maybe when we're done with school and settle in our careers and if we aren't seeing anyone it'll work. I can't stop crying. Anything that I do it reminds me of him and it hurts.
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