justification for friends of the opposite sex

[loveslife]

Ok, loveslife, this is a very evil side of me speaking.

 

Read my previous post and go do the test if you find that you've got nothing to lose anyway. But I am warning you, so far my test have been proven 100% to be right....

 

Well, like I said, we live in different countries, so I can be spared the test. But you're probably right.

 

I have to say I am happy I don't have to put it to the test.

[splintered thing]

So MEN, what on earth is your justification, when you have a gf, for having girl friends? Especially if it's an ex-gf whom you "don't even think of as an ex anymore" because she's such a great friend.

 

Please explain this to me.

 

I don't understand your confusion. On the average over the years, most of my friends (not by a large margin, typically between 60:40 and 51:49) have been the opposite sex. Some are exes, most aren't, some have been gay, most haven't. It's never seemed strange or been a problem. If I liked someone enough to want to date them, then there's enough about them that I like for me to want to be friends with them...and we have an added level of shared experience that adds to a friendship, not impedes it.

 

What I find completely baffling is the idea that you can only be friends with people whose genitals match your own. Unless there's some obligatory ritual that I've remained ignorant of all these years...what, exactly, do you *do* with another guy's genitalia that's required be friends? Do you have to disrobe and check each other out to make sure you have "friendship-compatible" body parts before you can think of someone in a friendly way?

[green apples]

I'm thinking it depends on the types of friendship, right? If it's a platonic friendship between a man and a woman, in which they don't always see each other, that's okay?

[messiah]

I have a lot of friends from both sexes, some are past gfs and some are just never thought about in that way. A lot of my past GFs have been tom boys so they had a lot of guy mates. I did not mind this, as long I was the one she had feelings for. Most of her guy mates and if not all of them were really cool too. Therefore, the ratio of guys and girls that my GF should have as mates does not bother me. However! let me express this Im sure I speak for every man in the world that guys do not like sitting with a bunch of women speaking nonsense! it feels like we are stuck in a chicken coup and all we hear is: bok, bok, bok, cluck, cluck, cluck! In the end, Friends are just that, they are friends and nothing else. Of course I believe you cannot believe that you can be friends with someone who you have feelings for because that creates MTV drama!