Mr. DNA Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Just a little background info - I'm a 28 year old nontraditional student at a decent-sized midwestern university crawling with hot undergrads. I can't think of a better laboratory for social interaction experiments. I have little difficulty maintaining direct eye contact and speaking in a clear, confident voice, which makes sense considering how I'm a Broadcasting major. What I need help with is progressing to the next phase after I initiate the conversation. If it's a girl in my class, then it's not much of a problem - we can always discuss the assignments, how boring the assigned reading was, or whatever. But what about women whom I see sitting in the food court or library, who I have never seen or talked to before? I can initiate a convo with a high rate of success... -------------------- Me: "Hi. Do you have [Name of Class] on Tuesdays and Thursdays?" Her: (Looks up, smiling) "No, I'm sorry." Me: "That's too bad, because you look smart. I was gone last week and wanted to know if I missed anything important." Her: "Haha, I couldn't tell ya..." ------------------- ...but what do I do after that? Clearly I'm interested in her and want to know more about her. What steps should I take to ensure that we talk again in the future? I don't want to ask for her number after a thirty-second conversation, but I also don't want to just smile, say "see you around" and then walk off, thus severing our connection and potentially missing a chance. Many thanks in advance for any meaningful, constructive input.
New Again Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 You need to just talk about things in your environment, or a book that she's reading, etc. You're dead-ending the conversation by asking about something that can definitely say no to (she's not taking some random class you came up with).
ashleigh422 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 I think you should not think about the conversation soo much. Make sure that you are up on current events.. thats always an easy in.. The more you rehearse how to act, the more nervous you will come off and the less attractive. Also, eye contact.. is MAJOR... you must practice that.. not with a woman of affection, but people in your daytoday life that you talk to.. you have to get past that.. becuase insecure men are not attractive to women.. I AGREE with new again.. don't ask a yes/no question. that is a convo ender... think of an open ended discussion.. like.. did you hear what.. happened.... ________________... if she says yes, she will likely have an opinion and be interested.. if she says no.. then you have a chance to fill her in and then progress the conversation.. you seem very nice.. i'd like to get to know you more.. if you don't mind.. can I call you sometime?
boogieboy Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Yes, dont ask her about herself right in the beginning, you have to get her engaged first. You have to come off like youre just making conversation and youre not trying to pick her up. She will be attracted that you make good conversation. Ask about if shes heard about news events, get some conversaton topics ready and run thru them. And dont ask her about the monster truck event or boring things like classes, ask her about things that WOMEN are interested in. Like how Jessica simpsons dog got yanked up by a coyote. Then once she starts asking you about you, then you can ask her about her. The confident speaking and eye contact will come once you get comfortable talking to the women.
johan Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 -------------------- Me: "Hi. Do you have [Name of Class] on Tuesdays and Thursdays?" Her: (Looks up, smiling) "No, I'm sorry." Me: "That's too bad, because you look smart. I was gone last week and wanted to know if I missed anything important." Her: "Haha, I couldn't tell ya..." ------------------- ...but what do I do after that? Clearly I'm interested in her and want to know more about her. What steps should I take to ensure that we talk again in the future? I suggest you do a little break dancing.
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