brenda collins Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I am 23 years old and have already had a string of failed relationships and encounters some short, some long that never turned into anyhthing.. I am seriously beginning to lose hope in finding a great guy that i will eventually marry and have a family with. It seems that in this day and age many men do not want commitment... Is there hope of ever finding someone? In my day to day life I see lots of Women in their late twenties early thirties who still havent found the right one.. this is becoming more and more common.. Anyone else feel the same???? Are more women destined to be alone and childless...
Author brenda collins Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 anyone?????????????????
boogieboy Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 It depends on how you go about finding your mates. If you just wait around for them to find you, then you wont find your mate for a while. If youre proactive in finding them, then it will happen much faster. But youre 23, whats the hurry? Are you dating guys that are on your level, normal guys? What kind of mates are you failiing with?
loveslife Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 It depends on how you go about finding your mates. If you just wait around for them to find you, then you wont find your mate for a while. If youre proactive in finding them, then it will happen much faster. But youre 23, whats the hurry? Are you dating guys that are on your level, normal guys? What kind of mates are you failiing with? Aren't you the girl who was pining over that lying, cheating footballer scumbag? I don't think that's a good way to find a lifelong mate.
Author brenda collins Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 I had one long term serious relaionship which ended about two years ago. Since then I have seen numerous guys. Here are details about the main ones... The first one was much worse looking than me we dated for eight months but he would not commit to a relationship with me, he now (two years later) is trying to bed me again... the second i dated for three months it ended the same way he did not want a relationship( we were on the same level looks wise) He now apparantly has a girlfriend! I then slept with my best guy friend who I had been in love with for years.. I told him i felt more after however he proclaimed he did not want a relationship with anyone as he was burned so badly by his ex. He now is seeing a much uglier girl than me and seems to have fallen for her to the point where they are pretty much together despite claiming he would never be in another relationship after his ex. The most recent, was an ex footballer. We saw each other casually for a few months and then he just stopped contacting me.. I found out from a googe source that he has a girlfriend who he apparantly lived with although he claims they just got back together and he stopped seeing me when they did.. Two months later he has been contacting me again and coming into my work flirting with me... Its the same pattern with all these guys they chased me and chased me and then when they got me they started backing off slowly until having to admit they didnt want a serious relationship... Help where am i going wrong...
sumdude Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 ... Help where am i going wrong... You're only 23 and way too worried about "Finding the perfect one" and getting married etc etc etc which means you're more likely to grab on to someone who may not be right for you because you think you'll be too old later or some such foolishness. Girl you are only 23, this is the time when you need to experience and grow as much as possible in life as an individual. Your opportunity to fly or fall flat on your face on your own terms without anyone to judge you or hold you back. You only get one chance at your early 20's, have fun! Travel, try new things, meet new people and if you do that you'll gain self assurance and confidence. The right one will come along and you'll know who the wrong ones are.. I know this all sounds cliche but you are trying way too hard.
Author brenda collins Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 I also forgot to mention the other guy that randomly flits in and out of my life.. We got together in january. It hen took him months to ask me out on a date and i mean until a mointh ago! He seemed really into me in the date and then texted me the other week saying we should do it again when he was bk from holiday.. that was two weeks ago since he was bk.. heard nothing!
boogieboy Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Thats nice that you give everyone a chance, but are you going to keep grabbing whatever comes your way, or are you going to start qualifying these guys before you get attached to them?
Author brenda collins Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 I think ur right i just grab onto the first male opportunity that arises! How do I change my ways! ???
Enema Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Ahhh Brenda, that's easy. Create an application form like a checklist and get prospective dates to fill it out and fax it back to you.
boogieboy Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Well theres a few ways, but youre a mystery right now. What is your occupation, How old are you how have you MET these guys you dated? Including your LTR ex.
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