Tony T Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Very interesting article about the many different reasons women have sex here: http://www.newsweek.com/id/216341 I'd love for some females to comment but ONLY IF they are able to be brutally honest. No BS here, please! Thank you!
laRubiaBonita Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 i agree with much of what the article had to say. i know i have had sex for many reason too- many that were identified in the article.
quankanne Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 interesting article, though most of the research results were common-sense stuff, IMO. I'm really surprised they didn't mention one of the top reasons a woman has sex: Connectedness. Because even if that's a given, it still needs to be put out there because it's a valid reason.
Lizzie60 Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Very interesting article about the many different reasons women have sex here: http://www.newsweek.com/id/216341 I'd love for some females to comment but ONLY IF they are able to be brutally honest. No BS here, please! Thank you! Interesting .,.but honestly it's no difference than men most of the time. I have seduced a total stranger (on vacation) just for the boost of self-confidence.. just for the heck of it.. to feel sexy... I had sex to manipulate.. to get what I wanted.. most, if not all women have done this one time or another.. I don't see anything new..
Jilly Bean Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 So, was this article written by Vonerik? It's pretty pathetic that they reported on all the manipulative reasons that women may have sex, yet they seemed to gloss over the main reason MOST women have sex: bonding with their partner, love, and pleasure. Now, I'm not saying that women don't have sex for some of the reasons mentioned, but this study seems hell bent on portraying women as manipulative sluts with agendas, who use sex purely as a weapon or for devious reasons. Smart women know the power of pussy on the open market and use that power effectively, while others certain abuse it, which is what the article seems to highlight. So, to answer your question on a personal note, Tony, yes, I have had sex for reasons other than love. I've had sex purely for the sexual release and the need to feel a man on me, and in me, I've had sex as a way to keep a man engaged in a relationship, and I've had sex for pure experimentation. BUT, these are such random and isolated occurences over a lifetime, and not ones that are put into general practice, and for me, as verbal as I am, making love with my man is the way I prefer to show him how I feel.
alphamale Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 "People use what they've got, and sometimes yes, women too use sexuality as a tool." yea like this is some big revelation
norajane Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Women learn very early on that sex is powerful, and that most men value sex extremely high. There is power in understanding that, and women use that power for both good and evil, depending on the circumstances. Passion, emotional connection, physical gratification - those are still the main reasons women have sex, I think. But, there are a lot more, and they aren't all about her actually wanting sex. I think the article is accurate. I would have liked to see more reasons why with explanations and commentary, or at least a top 10. It was a teaser article and not something that really satisfies curiosity. Is it really news that women have sex for all kinds of reasons having nothing to do with desire?
norajane Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 yea like this is some big revelation Exactly. Women and men both use sex, money, power, looks, intellect, humor, wit, charm, whatever they've got in order to get what they want. What is the revelation here?
alphamale Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 Exactly. Women and men both use sex, money, power, looks, intellect, humor, wit, charm, whatever they've got in order to get what they want. What is the revelation here? a number of years ago my gf at the time asked me to take her to DQs for ice cream. i refused flat out. then she gave me a blow job and i relented and took her to DQs
norajane Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 a number of years ago my gf at the time asked me to take her to DQs for ice cream. i refused flat out. then she gave me a blow job and i relented and took her to DQs There are also less selfish reasons. If honey has a bad day, for example, a woman might try to make him feel better. Or if he's feeling awesome and totally in the mood but she's not, she'll have sex because she doesn't want to kill his buzz. Or if he's done something nice for her or something that she knows he hates doing, like visiting her family or something, she might have sex to do something nice for him in return even if she isn't all hot for it at the moment. And on and on.
sally4sara Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I found the article insulting and the motive behind the article is part of the problem when dealing with female sexuality. When I became sexually active - it was for no reason other than curiosity and to seek pleasure. I was told it felt good and I wanted to find out how good. What I ended up dealing with was that no one was willing to accept these reasons from a woman. It had to be more than simple pleasure and curiosity - I was up to something or I didn't know or was not willing to be truthful. Men seemed to prefer the idea that they had "tricked" me into sex or something about them made me change my mind and only THEN did I want sex. So woman from the very start get told they cannot possibly just want to have sex. As young women, this feedback gives them the concept that sex is a tool or a means to an end for women. Even if they first approach sex out of curiosity, pleasure, a want to bond with someone they love - they are taught at every turn that sex is for getting things and causing drama. No wonder so many men suck at it. Why would you try to give pleasure to someone who couldn't possibly just want to have sex for the fun of it?
Trialbyfire Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I'd love for some females to comment but ONLY IF they are able to be brutally honest. No BS here, please! Thank you! Okay, no BS in my response. I think a lot of women have sex for all the wrong reasons which is why there are so many high number women, on LS. Of what I've noticed about the high number women, sex isn't just a feel-good physical sport. It's about external validation and the need to manipulate, using pussy.
Jersey Shortie Posted September 29, 2009 Posted September 29, 2009 I think the main three reasons women have sex is to 1) connect, 2) external validation and 3) sexual pleasure. I think men also use sex for external validation. Except it gets more easily hidden behind the ideal that men want sex all the time. While men obviously can be more randy, sex is also a form of external validation for them. I think the article is a little too base to be completely true or well rounded. It's basic message is that women are more complicated and harder to please. Maybe it's not a big surprise to me because I am a woman. It isn't really saying anything new to me about women.
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